Sometimes we may feel like we are not loved enough. Perhaps on such days they will speak to us in an emphatically dry manner and give little hugs. Your partner may refuse sex. In a word, the people around us will show their disdain and devalue us. By the way, the key words in this forecast are: “it may seem.” Because the catchphrase: “I came up with it myself - I was offended by myself” is precisely about the projection of the attitude of others towards themselves. We can do two things: 1. Fall into guilt for your own imperfections and try to be “ideal.”2. We can get rid of projections and express ourselves in our authentic form without feeling guilty for our intelligence and our beauty. How can resentments from neglect be played out in the theme of Love? For example, a man denies sex to a girl because, in his words, she is fat and unkempt , not washed, not combed, not made up, gives wrong, sits wrong, whistles wrong. A girl can do two things: 1. Try to take into account all the man’s wishes (this is constructive criticism, no?) and hurt your forehead by adjusting your appearance and your behavior to other people’s standards.2. Understand the hierarchy and determine why her personal opinion about herself turns out to be incorrect compared to the opinion of a man. Or does the girl at heart agree with his definitions regarding her own appearance and behavior? If you agree and think that this is constructive criticism, you need to work with projections and self-esteem. How is neglect played out in the topic of Business? For example, a manager neglects an employee. Or it may be different: the employee neglects the manager, as it seems to him. For example, an employee came to the office with a new, amazing manicure. And so, contemptuously, she glanced at the boss’s unkempt hands. She just didn’t say “pfft.” The manager can do two things: 1. Remember this look and the unspoken “pffff” and take revenge on the employee in another way, using your official position. And also never come to your office without a manicure again.2. Deal with the question: “why does someone else’s manicure infuriate me so much.” Why am I really so angry? Because she has the time and money for it? Because she has beautiful hands and nails, but I don’t? Because as a child I was slapped on the wrist for using nail polish? And so on. Which side of the barricades are you on? Do you tend to show disdain (everyone is a fool, I’m the only one - a professor) or do you tend to receive it (I need to try harder to meet other people’s expectations)? Irina Nikolaevna PaninaDoctor of Psychology, hypnologist, Tarot reader, writer, Reiki master, body specialist. Together we we will find the way to your hidden capabilities!