Does he cheat, does he not love? Love is what we hold on to and what keeps us in a relationship. But if there was betrayal, then what does this mean for such a fragile feeling as love? We associate love with fidelity and devotion. Loyalty and love are an integral part of a successful and happy relationship. But what happens to love when a third person appears in a couple? She is dying? Or had she already died before the betrayal happened? Or maybe she went into a lull, waiting out the outbreak of passion that had supplanted her? What if love stopped recognizing itself, mistakenly believing that it no longer exists? What happened to love when a woman who cheated on her husband after fifteen years of marriage is furious with herself for having acted treacherously towards someone who is so dear to her? Where does love go when the husband suddenly begins to pay attention to an attractive blonde secretary who promises secrets and newfound opportunities for a middle-aged man? And he took it and wandered after the novelty and cherished youth, as if a dog was lured with a tasty bone. The bone of his own wealth. Does it look like dislike when a man, driven into a corner by a problem with potency, decides to have an affair on the side? Disarmed by his own helplessness, he tests his sexual capabilities in order to return to his wife either “cured”, believing in his own strength, or trampled even more. We see that betrayal is more like dislike for oneself than dislike for a partner. This involves the problem of misunderstanding oneself, the inability to treat oneself, and to build trusting relationships. It is for this reason that cheaters use words and phrases such as “confused”, “lost”, “I don’t understand what it was”, “how could I”... And all this about themselves, about their personal crisis and imbalance. This is a kind of splitting within a person. In a situation of infidelity, the spouse thinks least of all about his partner. His own experiences come to the fore. And, of course, as a rule, he does not set himself the goal of hurting a loved one. Or it may also be that a person feels love for two people at the same time. For this reason, sooner or later the problem of choice arises. For this I feel passion and unbridled attraction, and for this I feel emotional closeness, stability and a deep sense of affection. A person calls both of them in one word “love”. Will we question this or that feeling of love when its owner describes it this way? Is it right to evaluate other people’s feelings if suddenly it seems to us that love can belong to only one? It becomes clear to us that love has many faces. This is both a young passion - love, and a mature, deep feeling of unity. It’s sad to realize this, but it happens that these aspects of the same feeling at a certain stage of life can manifest themselves to two different people at the same time. Another familiar situation is when, with the advent of a new passion, an unfaithful partner is convinced of his dislike for his spouse and leaves him in search of happiness with a newly formed love partner. But why then do we see that after some time the guilty husband or wife returns to their native harbor? What is this - hopelessness or insight? It’s not for us to judge, but we can see how a couple’s relationship is reborn from the ashes. Each of the spouses, gradually coping with difficulties, experiences satisfaction and joy as a result of the reunion. However, there are men and women who really do not love their spouse and betrayal is only a reason to separate and continue to go their own way... Cheating means not loves? It can be quite difficult to find the correct answer to this question, and it is impossible to find an unambiguous one. But when there is an understanding of what happened and for what reason it happened, we can determine further movement along the road of life. Seek help!