The connection between the physical and the social It is possible to trace the paradoxical nature of how we treat the body. On the one hand, this is riveted attention to him, worry about the external, excessive fixation, and along with this there is another side - refusal of attractiveness, behind which there is a feeling of loss, suppressed anger, shame and guilt, refusal to care, some kind of protest behavior. The two positions result in different attitudes towards others. In the first case, I can find fault with a person, have a need for him to look a certain way, and then this needs to be turned towards myself: “Do I allow myself to be “imperfect” or is it taboo?” In such behavior there is a lot of defense, shame for oneself, and envy, which are not realized and are redirected to external aspects and the life of another. In the second situation, you can go into devaluation of another through accusation and contempt for excessive attention in the body. Any extreme is always about something unhealthy, where there is little sense of self, and there is only following the introjected beliefs that doing THIS is the only correct option. Balance is fundamental and it provides a resource. In this place, freedom, love and gratitude for the body and its capabilities unfold. After all, the need for love is one of the basic needs for a person, and it is thanks to this that contact with oneself and the world can be harmonious. Since childhood, we have been developing an “internal scheme of love”; for some it is the most stable, and for others it is fragile. It’s surprising that it applies to all relationships; if the pattern is distorted, then it’s important to understand what you want and start correcting it. Sometimes you can see how love is distorted and ceases to be direct; it has modifications in the form of rejection, violence, fusion, dependence and codependency, use and collision. It is necessary to monitor what is behind such an attitude, what need is not satisfied, how I choose to act not directly, but through evasion. In order to notice something in yourself, you need another person. Meaning appears where different feelings and emotions are born. Through them you can discover what is happening, what I’m talking about now. Thanks to the presence of another, you can decompose your processes, rely on the responses of a person who gives this a place to exist, helps to differentiate and live. When it is difficult and confusing on your own, it is easier to unravel together. Without help, knots form, they can build up and become concrete, eventually turning into a blind area. Emptiness appears here and it may seem that there is nothing in it, but in fact, it hides the very knots that are waiting to be scared away. The knots are connected to each other, unraveling one starts a process that brings us closer to the next. Our relationship with our body reflects how we interact in life. Our body shows what is happening to us and it’s great to listen and pay closer attention to its signals. At the same time, do not go to extremes, but through a safe and smooth approach, learn to give him what is required, help him discover where the body hides difficult-to-bear feelings and experience them through reaction. Healing your troubling questions gives you freedom and strength for life..