Does it ever happen to you that you have some important event coming up, but you feel anxious and try to postpone the occurrence of this event? Or you need to solve some important problem at work, find a solution, and it’s difficult for you to sleep because you’re still thinking and you think about it, realizing that nothing will be decided now anyway? Or the solution to this situation depends not only on you, but also on other people and circumstances. Does it ever happen to you that everything seems to be fine and the sun is shining, but inside everything shrinks into a ball while waiting for something? And we get stuck in anxiety and tension that we can’t relieve. In such situations, we are frightened by the unknown, uncertainty. This anxiety is constantly present in the background, sometimes silent, sometimes appearing again. Anxiety finds a new object every time. It seems to float in the subconscious and become magnetized to a new object. When anxiety is established as a constant reaction, a person is in a state of constant vigilance, in anticipation of something frightening. If fear has an object, then anxiety does not have one; it can be present 24 hours a day. A person may not notice anxiety as a state, but notices bodily symptoms - suspiciousness - the feeling of “I’m like a compressed spring” - irritability: communication with people can be annoying , calls, questions. This is how a defensive reaction turns on when there are no resources to communicate. - decreased activity - spasmodic pain - “I can’t find a place for myself” - motor activity. Why does the unknown scare us? Most often it is associated with a loss of control. What we already know, we can control. In a familiar environment, we know how to act, we know where the pitfalls may be. We already have some experience and information. And we can predict the development of events. In a situation of uncertainty, the brain is frightened by the lack of information. When there is no information, there is no way to plan, the brain begins to come up with frightening pictures. The brain simply updates the existing experience of anxiety and tension. Most often, this experience of anxiety originates from childhood: For example, sudden frightening changes accompanied by a general background of anxiety and tension - changes in family composition (divorce, death, birth of a child), - moving, long-term stay in difficult conditions. Or tense situations that fuel anxiety for a long time - frequent quarrels, scandals between parents, a drinking parent. The most common cause of background anxiety is a parent or loved one who drinks. The child is in tension, waiting to see how he will come, anxiety hangs in the air. The inadequacy of a drunken person can also be frightening due to uncertainty and incomprehensibility. Even if the father did not hit, in any case, the anxious expectation is imprinted into the neural memory. How to cope with the anxiety of uncertainty? - First of all, bring certainty: what scares you the most. Ask yourself: what's the worst thing that could happen? How am I feeling at the moment? What is there around me besides fear and anxiety? Support from loved ones, delicious food, good weather - determine what you influence in your situation and what you don’t. Share responsibility. - return to the “here and now”: what is happening to me now? I am in a familiar place, everything is fine with me. - develop confidence in yourself, in your ability to cope, - remember your strengths, qualities, abilities that have previously led you to success and which you can rely on now. Of course, there are several other groups of techniques that help cope with anxiety: - breathing techniques, - bodily techniques, - directed imagination techniques, - grounding techniques. But I can tell you more about them during an individual consultation..