Starting from the appearance of the feeling I in the first year of life until death, a person is concerned about what he is like, how he is seen, what he really is, where it is - this is “the real deal”, and Who is I, asking about myself “what am I?”. Sometimes these questions receive satisfactory answers in childhood and then they are less pronounced in adulthood. But more often these questions remain relevant longer: for some they are simply interesting, for others they are tormenting, even frightening... Consequently, the answers to them sometimes surprise, sometimes delight, console, sometimes challenge. Since a person cannot fully realize himself, much less show himself to another fully, the answers given are never final and complete. Having only grasped one possible answer, the person soon encounters something else in himself that cancels or casts doubt on the previous image.. This is the nature of our psyche. However, the one who was taught from childhood “We like you the way you are - cheerful, sad, purposeful, aimless, active, tired... You have the right to be different and to be similar, to choose and make mistakes, to be happy and unhappy” - he copes with this internal dynamics of oneself more easily. A dynamic in which I am new every day and I am the same every day. For those who, from childhood, were given direct or indirect instructions on how to be, including contradictory ones, meeting new facets of oneself can cause anxiety, a feeling of being caught, inauthenticity, inferiority... The role of the psychologist in relation to these others is not to give the exact answer “You are like this and like this”, and not even to help them find the answer for themselves “I am like this and like this”, but in to help the individual learn to withstand this situation of internal variability, inconsistency, and uncontrollability of certain aspects of oneself. Learn to live in question and search, viewing yourself as “eternally the same and eternally new”, like a kaleidoscope, and not solving it like a crossword puzzle with exact answers.