TREASON. Agree, what an unpleasant and even scary word it is. Many people are probably familiar with the sensations it causes: a slight chill on the skin, weakness or heaviness in the legs. Why is this exactly so, because when we cheat, it’s as if the “ground under our feet” disappears, and the warmth disappears from the relationship. Cheating is a certain point in a relationship, and it always means one thing - it will never be the same again! Unexpectedly, everything around has “changed” " Suddenly the sun stops shining as before, people don’t seem to notice you, the food doesn’t taste good, your mood changes for the worse, nothing makes you happy anymore and it seems like there’s no limit to this. There is a feeling that things will never be good again. Was it good before? It is curious, for example, that at the beginning of a relationship, during the period of so-called falling in love, as a rule, there is no betrayal. Of course, then the whole world is contained in one person, everything is for his sake, no one can compare with him in anything, and the third one is always superfluous here. Over time, often after formalizing a relationship, this fervor subsides, and we no longer try very hard to “please” our partner, we stop feeling and understanding his needs and desires so keenly. We lose attention, and with it vigilance, trying not to notice the gradual cooling in the relationship. After all, it seems to us that the established intimacy and trust will last forever. Everything flows, everything changes. So people change over time, and along with this their desires, habits, and behavior change. This does not mean that for harmony in a relationship you need to constantly adapt to the other partner, but you should take it into account in your life. 99.99% of cases of betrayal have a good reason, namely, a violation of mutual understanding between partners. As for the rest, although quite rarely, it happens that “the devil has led me astray.” Why does it happen that we suddenly stop understanding each other. Maybe because we stop listening or hearing the other. It is very important to maintain dialogue all the time in a relationship. Then it will be a relationship when both actively “participate” in its construction. There is nothing immutable and eternal. There is a Spanish proverb: “It takes two to tango.” Relationships must be constantly maintained on both sides. It turns out that betrayal is a certain indicator of the quality of the relationship and our role in it. Who is guilty? The eternal question. As a rule, both partners cheat. It doesn't matter who is more and who is less. This is not the most important point in understanding betrayal; the main thing is to find the reason that led to the “changed relationship.” In real life, there is always some value behind our actions. Of course, betrayal itself is not such, but what a person does not receive in one relationship he tries to find in others, he needs it to maintain so-called psychological comfort. Cheating is always the result of some kind of internal search, a lack of emotions or feelings. At the very beginning, when faced with betrayal, we are subjected to very strong emotions: anger, rage, resentment. This is natural, because our usual state of “homeostasis in relationships” has changed. This causes severe discomfort, which must be dealt with and eliminated in any way. Such emotional defense of the psyche makes it difficult to clearly understand the reasons for betrayal, so the one who committed the betrayal will always be guilty at first. In fact, it is easier to blame another than to admit one’s guilt, especially in a state of desperate and blind resistance to changed relationships. All this must be sorted out with each other in order to come to a real understanding of what happened. It happens that without discovering the true reason, people compromise, “forgiving” each other, for the sake of the brightness that awaits them ahead, in their “new” relationships." What might happen in the end? For example, a husband, having “repented”, remains in the family. Then another common tactic for venting grievances appears: revenge. “There is no more necessary furniture in the house than a guilty husband.” At any convenient and.