Returning to the topic of boundaries, I want to draw your attention to the fact that first of all you need to learn how to set them for each family member. Let’s start with prohibitions. An example from the lives of people close to me. Dad doesn’t allow me to go outside because the assignment was not completed. A child who is eight years old is already well aware that dad can change his decision if I call mom. What happens, mom and dad sort things out over the phone and, having authoritarian weight in the family, mom allows him to go for a walk. What do we have as a result? The boy is ten years old, and he stays overnight with relatives without deigning to warn his parents about his decision. What awaits parents in a year? When setting prohibitions, discuss them with all family members. If grandparents (a case in life), which does not happen so often, but on the contrary, forbid the child to watch cartoons while eating, and the mother, so that the child does not be capricious and ate, quietly turning it on. The same thing happens if the grandmother feeds the child sweets and, moreover, warns not to tell the mother. If parents impose restrictions on the use of a gadget, or eat sweets before dinner, but dad does not consider this a general rule, he does not forbid his son to play as much as he wants, or, in order not to bother himself, gives him a chocolate bar. Children quickly begin to understand with whom and how to behave, in what cases they can break the rules and nothing will happen for it, which means they can break without fear of punishment. Therefore, the verses must be unified and consistent. Consistency. If you say no, you need to listen to the child so as not to traumatize him. Attentively and calmly. It is necessary to pay attention to good behavior, Motivate. If parents scold a child for every violation of the ban, but do not pay attention to his efforts and achievements, he will constantly feel guilty, unloved and bad, which will lead to real problems with self-esteem. Pay attention to the child’s good behavior. Constantly praise your child and hug him. My mother always said: “A tender calf sucks two queens.” I have lived with this all my life and am grateful to it. Say everything in a calm, firm tone, and not in a screaming teacher, your word no should be a statement.