📌Conflicts in the family are inevitable. But they are often avoided. But avoidance does not cancel them in any way; accordingly, they develop into hidden/latent conflicts. If we hide conflicts, we may notice one of the following phenomena in our family: 1 ⃣ Desire in sex disappears. Relationships of a sexual nature are relationships of distance. It’s like we’re together, but we don’t penetrate each other. In addition to the lack of desire in sex, sexual diseases may also arise: fibroids, prostatitis, leucorrhoea, etc. 2⃣ Frequent disagreements about the style of raising a child. Hence the attraction of the child into the parental relationship. The child participates in a constant “tug of war”: “Let’s do this, but we won’t tell dad.” 3⃣ Taking personal time. Reducing joint activities. There is a lot of work, study, sports, fishing, etc. 4⃣ Alcoholism. Drink together or alone. This helps them communicate, since communication is possible only when intoxicated. 5⃣ Money. The topic of concealing income and separate budgets arises. 6⃣ Health. In order not to communicate, not to discuss anything, not to do for your partner, it is easier to get sick and thus resolve the issue. It is important to remember that latent conflict, when partners pretend that everything is fine with them, is avoiding divorce. But at any moment something can happen that your partner will consider as the last straw. Then divorce will not be avoided! Responding to emerging feelings is very important for resolving conflicts in the family. But often this seems almost impossible for spouses due to some of their existing ideas about banning the main feeling in a conflict - anger: ⁃ you cannot be angry with a loved one; ⁃ my anger is so strong that it will destroy our relationship; ⁃ my anger will cause reciprocal anger, and I am afraid of this; ⁃ with my anger I will hurt another person, he will not stand it and will get sick. The work of a psychologist is to help spouses distinguish between their feelings and respond to them in sessions, while remaining in a relationship. And also learn to contact each other, coming to a consensus in meeting needs. Your psychologist Ekaterina Ivanova☎+79191191791❤@psiholog_ivanova_ekaterina