How you want to know yourself, Reveal all the secrets of the Soul...Hug your man, And get to know your woman... Svetlana Dolya (Meditation - Inner Man and Woman (Svetlana Dolya) / Poems.ru (stihi.ru )) In every person, regardless of gender, there live two beings - the inner man and the inner woman. The inner man is an active part, called upon to plan, solve problems, and achieve goals. This inner figure has his own view of the world, his own values, his own vocabulary, his own abilities, skills, fears. These characteristics are always strictly individual. The inner man can be a subtle diplomat or a fearless warrior, a realist or a dreamer, a romantic or a cynic, he can have a strong will or be of a soft nature. The inner woman is the part aimed at relaxation and acceptance. It is characterized by such qualities as: lightness, sensitivity, playfulness, flexibility, softness. She is also exceptionally individual and can be represented as a playful girl, a wise housewife, a gentle lover or a freedom-loving bird enjoying flight. The formation of the inner man and woman occurs in early childhood. We copy the behavior of our parents or significant adults, their attitudes, which we then manifest in our lives and in interactions with others. These two figures interact with each other in a certain way, manifesting themselves in various areas of our lives. Sometimes we conduct our affairs like a man, and sometimes like a woman, without realizing how the switching occurs. It is the quality of contact between internal figures that largely influences personal effectiveness. If they hear, feel, understand each other, then we are happy, lucky and our union with a real partner is successful. If there is no understanding between them or one of the figures is completely ignored, then we project its image onto others. For example, if a woman in her inner world fights with a male figure, then in reality she will also fight with men. We do not get what we want, but what we broadcast. The balance of power between the inner man and the inner woman is also important, since these figures are in constant dialogue. For many people, the inner man and woman are not balanced. The problem is that these figures inside us are not conscious, they live in the Unconscious, but they very skillfully control our behavior and reactions. And we rush around in search of love, joy and balance, trying to find them in the outside world, but are often disappointed. And the outside world appears only in the form of a mirror and reflects our inner state. Men are usually afraid to discover the feminine part of themselves, and women are afraid of contact with the masculine, because they are afraid of turning into the opposite sex. But, if we establish a balance between the internal figures, accept and use their various qualities, then we will feel more holistic and calm. Using the VseLenka tools, you can easily look at the relationship of the inner couple, establish contact and lead to balance. You can find inner integrity and become more joyful by signing up for an online consultation with me. The author of the article is a psychologist, Mikhail Vasilievich Krivulya.