Confession of a Moscow kept woman. Dear readers! Before the New Year, I received an unusually frank letter, which I submit for your open discussion. It was written by a girl whom I myself called Alevtina for purposes of confidentiality. The girl positions herself as a professional kept woman and insists on three things: - firstly, that kept women have a fundamentally different motivation and style of behavior than classic mistresses; their motive is self-interest, and not the desire to break up someone else’s family and create their own. - secondly, on the fact that kept women are not dangerous for families and wives; moreover, kept women are almost protectors of wives and families from mistresses who make men fall in love with themselves, fall in love themselves and threaten the well-being of families. - thirdly, on the fact that family psychologists should not fight with kept women, and wives should treat their existence with patience and understanding. A little later, I myself will give a detailed commentary on this matter. And now I propose that you speak out for yourself on all these three points. Preferably, correctly))) Alevtina (name changed), Moscow. Andrey, I want to give you one piece of advice in the New Year: separate mistresses and kept women in your work! I’m 34 years old, I’m still very young, but this is the second time I’ve encountered you. It happens too often and I don't like it anymore. A little about myself: I have a higher education, from an ordinary family. She came to Moscow from the region, after university, and worked as an ordinary employee in a bank. I won’t lie, I wanted a sweet life. She relied on her appearance and clubs. At the age of twenty-three, she began dating a rich married man of 50+. I didn’t want to marry him, I enjoyed life at his expense. He rented an apartment for me on Yakimanka, bought me a car, and drove me to Dubai. She didn’t take the man anywhere, didn’t get pregnant, didn’t mess with his wife. We just lived in a high for three years, he and I. Somehow his wife found out about everything and ran to you. You did something with her there, she told him something, and as a result, the pain began. He rushed between me and my family for a whole year, and he bled all my wife and me. Moreover, I rushed about in vain: I didn’t plan to marry him, an old fart, at all!!! I didn’t really care about his fuss. As a result, you turned him against me, he fell off sobbing towards his family. Although, when he gets drunk, he keeps writing to me about eternal love, although seven years have already passed. So I don’t know if he’s happy there, with his wife. Hence, the first question: Why did he rush about if I didn’t pull him towards me? Hence, the second question: Why did his wife run after him if she could no longer give birth, and was all packed with real estate and money? Moreover, she herself was already his second wife. Also one of his former lovers, formerly his secretary. What did she want from him? After his tossing, he ended up in the hospital, underwent surgery, and they repaired his heart. Then, because of all this, he became bad with sex. Apparently, that’s why we broke up, because Viagra was no longer possible for him due to his health, and without sex he felt awkward in front of me. In short, no sex for her, no for me, no for him))). This is the whole result of the psychologist’s intervention in the situation: to destroy everyone’s enjoyment of life! Well, I received less money, but so what? I immediately found another rich fool who had never seen women in stockings and was ready to immediately transfer money for porn correspondence and rent a spa in a hotel. The wife of this first sponsor of mine would still not have become poor with her fur storage. And it could have ended due to worry. And not at all. And who would continue to support his wife and her children is a big question. Which she apparently didn’t ask herself. In general, it seems to me that a wife, when her husband cheats, needs to think first of all about the fact that the husband remains alive and can pay the bills of his former family even after the divorce, and not ruin him with expulsions from the family and psychologists. After all, if he dies, it will not be the psychologist who will raise her children, and not her mistress! But wives do not understand this and destroy their unfaithful husbands themselves, and then suffer. Like dogs in a manger: neither for ourselves nor for people. I continue to write. I continued enjoying life with a different wallet. Then again. At 29 years oldgave birth to another rich married man in love. Also 50+, but still quite functional. They bought me an expensive apartment in Moscow, albeit with a mortgage. The child grew up, the mortgage was paid, my car was updated. His wife (still the first, which does him credit as a decent person) lived abroad; she didn’t care about anything at all. No signs of trouble. Unfortunately, his business did not survive the Covid crisis of 2020-2021, he became poor and went to live with his wife. Not because he needed her, but in the village where they had a foreign villa, his richer friends lived, to whom he now went to work as a manager. Such is life. He stopped sending money to us and the child. As usual, I began to look for another generous sponsor, but, unfortunately, in 2022, due to the war and the mass exodus of wealthy Buratins from Moscow abroad, their range was greatly reduced. I have a mortgage - be healthy, but the bank does not give a discount on a loan to a young sexy mother. For the first time in my life I had to fuss and lower the bar for my men. It was also my first time meeting people through dating sites. Previously, everything was done live, through clubs. I found myself an IT specialist, with my own business and my own cockroaches. Not God knows what level, but it’s suitable for lack of fish and cancer. Gradually I found an approach to him. After a couple of months I started paying my mortgage. Everything was fine for six months. I had just exhaled when his wife declassified us this September. First she kicked him out, then she came to you and three weeks later she first brought him to you, then brought him back to the family. He loves children, is ready to live with them, but he no longer wants her and will never want her! After me, no one has ever wanted their own wives. Moreover, one who has never even bought lace panties for herself in her life. And now there is a repetition of the Marlezon ballet seven years ago!!! Again the man rushes about. He wants to be in the family again, but physically he can’t. He is drawn to me, but you said something to him, put some blocks in place, and now he doesn’t come to me either. He sings a song about how he is tired of all women, wants to live alone and masturbate. But, again: I don’t need him to come to me! I don't need to destroy his family! I myself am aware that I am not a mistress, but a kept woman! I don't need him as a husband! I don’t even need him as a man: I like a completely different type of man. I want him to just fuck me periodically, listen to my rehearsed loud oohs and ahs, pay my mortgage for this, take me on pleasant trips, give me gifts and that’s it. As the saying goes: “Let him get under your skirt, but don’t get into your soul!” But, unfortunately, now everything is falling apart before our eyes and is following the sad scenario from the past! I think it will be like this: His family will still collapse after some time. Because his wife is already an adult, he will not stay with her. It was my first sponsor who had a second wife, younger, still childbearing, who had a margin of safety, but here he doesn’t have it. As a result, he will come to me, sick and depressed, missing his children, and lie down on my couch, but I don’t need him! He will understand this and go back to his wife. It won't work there again either. Then he’ll get drunk or find another woman. And what is the result? Moreover, you yourself write a lot in your articles about how such a sad end of cheating males often happens. So, doctor, I’m sure: in your approaches you still need to separate mistresses and kept women! We are different! Mistresses love and want to take a married man away from the family and create their own family with him. We, kept women, don’t need anything except money. With us, everything is like the American proverb: “There is nothing personal in our relationship, it’s just business!” Therefore, if a married man has money, which is enough for both a family and a kept woman, then there is no need to fight with us, the kept women! After all, such a struggle is reminiscent of what it would be like if your expensive car has rust in places, and because of this you pour sulfuric acid on the car. Of course, you will defeat rust, but you will also destroy the car. So it is in the fight against.