When it's ripe. Many people say so. And what is it? Possibility of giving birth? That's all? Some people believe that love is a sufficient reason for marriage. Oddly enough, this is just a necessary condition, but not a sufficient one. Everyone gets married for love, or so they think, but in many regions of Russia, for every 100 weddings, there are 120 divorces. Love just ends quickly. You can argue that if it ends, then it wasn’t love. Who cares? The result is the same - divorce. If physiological and psychological readiness for marriage are not sufficient grounds for starting a family, then what will be sufficient? The smartest people say it’s the ability to build relationships. I agree, but only partly. A person can get along great with another, but another... He can just pack his things and leave, anything can happen. My guess is the following. A girl can get married only when she can independently feed herself, her child, and, if necessary, her partner (husband). Young ladies, wait to be indignant, let’s think about it. Let’s assume that I’m right. What does this give to the girl.1. Independence. That is, the ability to make decisions independently. When there is financial security, then it is simply useful to take into account any opinions of the husband (cohabitant), but if they are not very correct and reasonable, make your own decision. This is easy if you have something to pay for the decision.2. Independence is a continuation of independence. There is no need to ask anyone for anything. If you think you are right, show independence. You can ask the opinion of your husband (partner), or you don’t have to do this, because you pay yourself.3. Confidence. No matter what happens, for example, the husband found someone else, started drinking, went crazy, there is an opportunity to support himself and his child. There is no fear of being left alone and without money.4. Reliability. The (husband) partner may have different circumstances, for example, illness, loss of job, loss of business, prison. You are reliable for him, at least in a difficult situation you don’t have to think about how to feed your wife and child. And then the girls declare in unison, “Why do I need such a husband (partner)?” This is a certain moment of truth. Tell yourself straight, among other things, marriage is an opportunity for financing from a man. I agree, it would be good if this happens. But then be aware that you and the child are dependent. From a man? Not always. Men, for example, are also mortal, except for such circumstances as loss of business, loss of work, illness, another love, prison. No one is immune from all these unpleasant misfortunes. So I think that in a game with difficult circumstances there is a lot at stake, namely: you and the child. Therefore, a girl can get married only when she can independently feed herself, her child, and, if necessary, her partner (husband). Is it logical? Many people don’t like this statement: to feed your husband, if necessary. Indeed, few young ladies even think about this possibility. A husband can be a good person, but, for example, he becomes seriously ill and cannot work - quit, go to someone who is healthy? If you immediately, when deciding to get married, rely only on your husband as the only source of financing, then it is logical to leave your husband if he does not cope with what you hoped for. This happens often. Like in the joke. He: “If it weren’t for my money, we couldn’t teach our son at an English school, there wouldn’t be a new apartment!” She: “If it weren’t for your money, I wouldn’t be here either!” Now let’s Let's think, how many women from their inner circle got married while being financially independent? Are you ready, in case of difficult circumstances, to support yourself and your child on your own, as well as help your husband? Found it? If so, good! Let's celebrate such women in poetry and songs. I'm happy for them. There are other observations. Over many years of conducting my trainings, I discovered that girls consciously, and more often, without realizing it, look for, among other things, financial well-being in men. At the same time, they do not want to depend financially on their husband or partner. This is such a contradiction. Often/