While “scanning” my morning feed, my eye was caught by a comment under one of my colleague’s posts. In this comment, the woman “went through” psychologists, citing the fact that she has been going to Argentine tango classes for a long time, and many psychologists ALSO go to these classes. And she looked at different people there, concluding that she would go to some, but not to others. It’s so interesting, sometimes, to hear about the professionalism of this or that specialist not by his deeds or statements, but by the HOW he behaves in ordinary life. For example, I was once reproached and doubted about my competence only because... I TEAR the packaging bags, trying to get to the contents, rather than trying to untie them! Someone, apparently, dances tango differently than this should be in someone’s “picture” about a psychologist. And psychologists get sick. And they are also getting divorced. And they also have problems with children and parents... Yes, a lot of things happen... The most important thing, in my opinion, is that practicing psychologists KNOW how to separate the positions: I am a Person and I am a Psychologist. And in the state of I-Man, he, like all other people, HAS the right to clumsily dance the tango, experience his personal tragedies, deal with his cockroaches. And if you want, you can also tear the bags... And psychologists go to other psychologists. How ordinary people go... Find out about YOURSELF, meet YOURSELF... First of all, in order to be a good psychologist. Because when they come for help, they need to be in the “I am a Specialist” position, without imposing their worldview on the client, disentangling their own and others. We are all people, regardless of our profession. And, if there is no “Ask me how” badge hanging on his chest, then few would want to be perceived one-sidedly, only as a specialist. Because people are multifaceted, and the roles of each person are numerous. But if you do not step out of the role of a specialist, then this is already a clear professional imbalance. You should not expect from people in helping professions that they will always and everywhere act from the position of a “Supportive Parent”, because in ordinary life they sometimes need someone - that's support. But, for some reason, it is precisely at this point that you often hear a reproach: supposedly you can’t cope. A psychologist is not a bottomless well into which everyone who wants to “drain” their emotional waste at any time. Yes, you can “switch on” out of necessity, if a loved one needs participation outside of school hours, but it is also necessary to switch off. You should not expect everyone to always and everywhere behave in accordance with the external “showcase” of their specialty. After all, it’s really absurd to assume that, for example, a gynecologist carries a “mirror” with him everywhere in his purse; plumber - keys and insulation; builder - bricks; artist-canvas and paints... I can imagine that even Sergei Zverev, if the camera is not pointed at him, still takes off his crown. And Kirkorov is not all the time in feathers and rhinestones...No one has yet canceled human sympathy. It sometimes takes years to find the right specialist in a particular field. But, it would be nice to look EXACTLY at his professional achievements in order to draw conclusions, and not devalue him based on some criteria that are far from his specialty.