As soon as you enter the contacting phase, present your desires, appear, you immediately become uncomfortable for someone. And you can deal with your inconvenience in different ways. You can decide that showing up is dangerous and go into the shadows. You can decide that showing up is dangerous based not on your own experience, but, for example, based on the message you received from your parents that the world is dangerous. And then you form an introject that the world is dangerous. The log of the introject is do what they want from you, and you will be good to everyone, and everyone will like you. And forget about your desires. If we manage to get through an introject, then we are faced with a projection. With projection, we gain rights to our desires. But we don’t want to take responsibility for its implementation. There are different projections. It may seem to us that everyone around us is very nice and treats me well, or it may seem that no one likes me and everyone rejects me. Projection has nothing to do with reality, since we do not see real people. When projecting, we paint the whole world and the people in it with the qualities of our own personality. If we are evil, then it seems to us that people are evil. If you want to love the whole world, then it seems to us that there are only loving people around. And it is important to check your projections, compare them with reality. After projection, in the process of contacting, you can encounter retroflection. Retroflection is when a person already knows about his desires, and reality is checked, and it seems like the person he likes also shows his sympathy, but at the same time a stop occurs. And the person does not approach, does not ask questions of interest, but begins to endure in this contact zone, and this is difficult. This is much harder than enduring in the pre-contact zone, when we hold back the boundaries of our inner world. To appear at the border of contact in a conscious form, you need to restrain yourself for some time. With retroflection, it turns out that all patience is in the external environment, and not in the internal, and happens in front of other people. That is, all the energy that should be directed towards a person organizing his life the way he wants is directed inside himself and begins to destroy him. He may somehow get injured, hit, get sick, etc..