This text was born during couple counseling, as a result of updating experiences “in the present,” when working with the Id function. Thanks to the strong feelings that arose during work, now, a little later, after detaching myself from the situation at the session, this interaction is easily reproduced, where I feel like this man and like this woman. Holding inside myself the feeling of what is happening now, I catch this connection, which she desperately and selflessly reproduces, overcoming powerlessness and, as if with the last of her strength, making a leap towards her lover, to which he reacts in surprise and dumbfounded with maximum uncertainty. I again experience the state that the woman wanted to convey and feel her powerless tension when she tries to pay attention to the barely bearable fear; overexcited search for a way out; endless comparison of oneself with others - naturally, not in one’s favor; suspicions that everything is in vain, that she is uninteresting, that she is a stone around her neck; her unspoken plea to her husband to take responsibility for her life, because. Feeling her limbo, she cannot decide to become pregnant and feels approaching “madness.” She talks about how life proceeds in a stereotypical way, against a vague background of the listed experiences, which a woman usually does not allow into the present, and only now, in a continuous stream, excitedly, being in constant movement of facial expressions and gestures, almost shouts them out to her husband... According to the status , the pattern of a woman’s behavior, intonation, facial expressions, I, as a therapist, feel intolerance of melancholy and anger, desires for intimacy and disgust, which a little later, having calmed down, the woman can already talk about. The question that beats between them: “Find the answer in yourself: do you need me?” It's about what was and what could be. If you stay in the present, the question transforms into a message: “See me now! When you don’t see me, I’m an unnecessary thing!” This is the point at which a woman tries to seize and hold, while a man, charged with pleasure from recognition by employees at a corporate party, remains extremely vague and answers: “I don’t know.” When I reproduce this episode, I still have the feeling that the man was somewhat “starry,” although in response to my question: “Who are you now?”, he, embarrassed, could not answer, he shrank a little and pursed his lips. In the future, he tries to cover up the shame and claims that he has no problems, does not admit that he is faced with a dilemma consisting of possible reactions: - if “I need you” - he will have to part with his “stardom” and turn an unnecessary thing - his wife - into necessary, thereby creating certainty for her; - if “I don’t need you,” therefore, he releases his and her life under his own responsibility. This is not realized, causing reciprocal indignation, closure, isolation, counter fear, because if “I am free,” then we need to start some other life, a more adult one. As a result of a chain of painful contacts, the woman feels that she is “covering” and that she is “going crazy.” It took some time for the couple to realize the scripted nature of the interaction, and the fact that according to this script they do not meet in this interaction and can only be angry, angry, hate, disgusted with each other, ashamed, and feel guilty. Having realized that the script is “not me,” the woman begins to feel sad about the impossibility of not going according to the script, she wants to be someone, and it’s hard to feel like a nobody. Unfortunately, the man continues to be “stupid”, and we continue to talk only with the woman. When, trying to maintain a connection with the present, a woman realizes that she needs to find states in which there is support in order to withstand uncertainty, a certain increase in energy occurs. The woman finds some relaxation and reassurance in this opportunity. To the question: “What could be a support that can withstand her husband’s uncertainty?”, she lists people with whom she could write on the Internet and experiences this.