How to understand that you are in a relationship with a narcissist? Girls often come to me who feel that something is happening in the relationship, but they don’t understand what exactly. Although something clearly bad is happening. In such cases, I ask the client to make a couple of assumptions about what it could be. “Well... it seems to me that my man doesn’t hear me at all,” says the client. “So... good. How does this manifest itself, and how do you feel about it?” - I continue “He does not respond to my requests, he shows indifference to my feelings. I feel useless and lonely. Sometimes it seems to me as if I’m talking to a wall, and not to a living person,” says the client. “This “talking to a wall, and not to a living person” very often indicates that a girl is in a relationship with a narcissistic man. They are truly insensitive to the internal needs of their partner, often ignore requests and desires, and are reluctant to make contact when their other half offers to talk about what is happening in the relationship. They put up a kind of wall that cannot be broken through, no matter how hard you try. You can recognize a narcissist by the following signs: Cruelty. This may not necessarily be physical violence, although it also takes place. Narcissists often show moral cruelty by ignoring their significant other. This can be constant humiliation and insults, criticism, gaslighting (when they try to convince you of your own inadequacy). Denial of the problem. We all periodically feel angry, in a bad mood, and not in the mood for a productive conversation. However, for narcissists, this behavior is constant. He completely refuses to acknowledge the existence of a problem, pretending that nothing is happening. Manifestations of sociopathy. There are a lot of sociopaths among people suffering from narcissistic personality disorder. They do not recognize generally accepted norms and rules, ignore the feelings of others and are unable to show empathy towards another person. The narcissist's behavior causes his partner to either avoid him or try to please him in everything. Be that as it may, such relationships are clearly unhealthy and bring unpleasant experiences to both. I hope that thanks to this article you will be more attentive to the manifestations of your partner, whose behavior may confuse you. I wish you healthy relationships and peace of mind! Sincerely, Your psychologist, Ilya Akhmedov