From the author: The article was written for a magazine, I know nothing about its publication. 1. What to do if you are faced with betrayal? If you are faced with betrayal, the first thing you need to do is let off steam. After all, learning about betrayal is always difficult, it is a tragedy, grief, a collapse of illusions. Having finished with the frantic emotions (with the help of a punching bag, a kilometer of dug up beds or a professional psychologist), ask yourself: what did my partner mean by this? If one partner finds out about cheating, then the other partner consciously or unconsciously wants it. This is often an opportunity to talk openly about problems in a relationship. You shouldn’t get all worked up, pack his things into suitcases, throw tantrums, or impulsively break off the relationship forever. What do we have to do? Cool down. Then figure it out, understand the reason, and not get hung up on the fact. On your own or with the help of a specialist. 2. Should I tell someone about this? As a rule, in response to betrayal, a person feels anger, resentment, despair or a desire for revenge, and many other negative emotions. And, of course, in this case, the support of a loved one is necessary. It’s great if you have a good girlfriend/friend who is ready to listen without judgment. You can be envied if you have such a trusting relationship with your mom/dad that she/he can listen to you and warm you up without inserting malicious comments “all men/women are like that, they are all assholes!”, or “I immediately knew that he /she is not worthy of you!" If your mom/dad and your girlfriends/friends only add fuel to the fire and give extreme recommendations, you shouldn’t be frank with them, it won’t bring you relief, it won’t be good for you. And yet, the need for support remains, in which case a professional psychologist will be much more productive. 3. How to talk to him/her about his/her cheating? We need to talk about betrayal. How? With a cool mind. Soberly. With the interest of the researcher.4. Is it possible to remember about betrayal after reconciliation or put a taboo on this topic? If you decide to forgive (you find that after the betrayal there is more love in your soul than hatred), do it once and for all. Resentment, reproaches, control over your partner, checking your phone, mail, searches and searches will sooner or later destroy your relationship. 5. How can I learn to trust him again? Learning to trust again is difficult. There are no guarantees that betrayal will not happen again, rather the opposite. It will take years to recover, and for a long time you will remain on guard. They say trust is like a piece of paper - once you remember it, it can never be smoothed out. It's up to you to decide. After all, there are no guarantees in new relationships.6. What will help revive the relationship? The best remedy for resuscitating relationships is family therapy. Each partner contributes to the relationship; cheating is an indicator that something has gone wrong. To revive relationships, the desire and readiness of both partners to develop and maintain them is important. In addition to therapy, I can recommend spending more time together, finding a common hobby - be it riding bicycles, cooking unusual dishes or going to the theater, play games, play pranks, and experience shared emotions. Turn off your phones, talk to each other about how you feel, about your experiences, make plans together. Love to you, understanding and fidelity!