What does it mean to appear and not to be? When a person wants to appear, the first thing it means is: He does not accept himself. This is quite difficult because there are a lot of other people’s programs sitting in the subconscious (what you should be, what you shouldn’t be, what you can and cannot do, how it should be or not), there are a lot of expectations of other people and even your own from yourself and of course as well as resentment and hatred towards others and oneself on the topic of what was not accepted. Everyone needs to work with this gradually, this may take years. But today and now you can just start thinking differently. Think and say out loud: “I accept myself for who I am,” and observe reactions and also accept them, “I accept you for who you are.” It is also very important to forgive yourself and everything related to the above. The more you tell yourself, people, God, the world, reality every day that you forgive them: “I love and forgive you,” the easier it will be for you to breathe, and therefore to live. Simplification - from the word Forgive. It just becomes when you forgive. It's difficult when you struggle. Forgive and let go of the struggle, surrender to life itself and love it through acceptance and forgiveness. That's when the magic begins, called Being the Creator of your life. So. When a person tries to appear, he refuses and rejects himself - trauma according to Liz Burbo - an outcast. You can read about this in her book “Five Traumas.” But why does a person reject himself? Because he consists of two parts: mom and dad, female and male - because all programs are copied in childhood from parents when you did not understand and wanted to understand - unconsciously. And when a person rejects a parent, he rejects himself. And there are many options for working on yourself, but the best one is to start working with your childhood and grievances against your parents, through accepting them, allowing them to be as they are, you can smoothly move on to accepting yourself: as you are. It's simple. You need to accept your roots, where you come from. This is the key to your well-being. Why is it harmful to appear, to pretend to be something, rather than to be?⭕ You are not living your life⭕ Your amount of vital energy decreases, because you spend it on maintaining a mask and image of yourself that is not real, sooner or later later you will get tired of lying to yourself and others, and this is called “emotional burnout”, energy flows away to no one knows where and for what. This is a good reflection mechanism: the body shows “You are a friend, you lied, lie down and think about what is really valuable to you and how you want to live.”⭕ Desires will not come true, because the Universe is trying to give to those who want to give: and this just joy and happiness and the desire to create at the moment of receiving a gift and after. A desire conceived in order to appear is created from the desire to take something from people: a reaction, an assessment, emotions, feelings, often even for the sake of a negative reaction - for example, envy.⭕ A person stops listening to himself, and plows and labors for an illusory image that as it seems to him, it gives him safety and security. Why hear yourself? Because you are the only ones who can always hear yourself and follow your voice of the heart, for the sake of happiness.⭕ As a result, a feeling of emptiness awaits... Sooner or later, everything that is done for the sake of seeming may collapse or those who fed this image with reactions will leave , and then the person will feel like there is nothing to live for, no goal, apathy, depression. This means that initially the present, worthwhile direction from the soul was not chosen, and the past was empty and did not fill, did not refresh, did not give strength. You should always live from the heart and for yourself. You can track the following moments in yourself, then you will understand that you are trying to seem and not be: ❗ Someone’s opinion is more important to you than your own ❗ You want to receive more reactions from people , this means that your life and your actions do not fill you ❗ You are often tired, you have little energy and strength ❗ You lose the meaning of life periodically and do not feel alive ❗ You want to demonstrate and show everyone your life on social media all the time. networks❗Are you waiting?!