Aggression is an integral part of our life, more often, of course, a negative part of it. And while we clearly see aggression towards each other, we often don’t notice aggression directed at ourselves. Auto-aggression can manifest itself in different ways. The degree of harm that is caused to a person may also vary. First of all, auto-aggression can be recognized by the habit of reprimanding oneself, looking for flaws in oneself and focusing on them. So many of us cannot forgive ourselves for a bad day at work or wake up at night, remembering what a stupid joke we made the other day. Someone endlessly loses weight, having a BMI below the norm, someone tries not to look in the mirror so as to see their nose less often. I think many can recognize themselves in the above variants of auto-aggression. But there are also more extreme degrees of aggression towards oneself. In severe cases, a person is capable of causing physical harm to himself, endangering life and health. The problem is that auto-aggression is unofficially recognized as the norm. In fact, is it surprising that the female half of humanity is always dissatisfied with the shape of their lips or the long legs? However, a healthy psyche should not work towards auto-aggression, at least so persistently and constantly. It’s trivial that if, instead of destructive criticism, we spent time and energy on development, achieving new goals, implementation, it would be more productive and useful for us in every way. In the fight against auto-aggression, first of all, we need to understand that even though this action is negative, we use him with positive intentions. And we need to focus on this when the brain, out of habit, begins to look for shortcomings in us. Did you do your job poorly? Don’t get hung up on self-destruction and constantly replaying your failure in your head. Immediately start working on your mistakes, find the reasons for what happened, take measures to reduce the possibility of a repetition of such a situation to a minimum. In essence, auto-aggression is built on the desire to control, subjugate what is happening to you and your life, and motivate you to change. If you can’t immediately change your train of thought from self-flagellation to constructively thinking through ways to get out of the situation, give this process a physical, tangible form. Start keeping a diary, make a plan for the day, think over a system of small rewards for achieving set goals. It has been proven that life planning itself makes a person feel more confident and increases self-esteem. In our case, planning is definitely capable of breaking the vicious circle of constant, aimless self-abasement. The task of any person, including those who have taken the path of fighting auto-aggression, is to make themselves happy. By educating ourselves, changing our thinking habits, we in some ways repeat the model that parents use when raising their children. Take a look at this comparison. When choosing methods of motivation and work on yourself, think that these methods should be beneficial without causing harm..