Remember the situation when there is a person next to you in anxiety, panic, running, fussing. Then you either turn on yourself and start “throwing” because it’s contagious, or you want to run away, or you shake the person by the shoulders and shout “oh, well, calm down!” Highly excited states are difficult to withstand, especially when you yourself are not in resource. Therefore, it is clear that people are usually drawn to those who can provide support, stability, strength, where they can “ground themselves.” No matter where we are, no matter what events happen around us, we always somehow perceive the world around us, we somehow evaluate it and relate to it somehow, and experience what is happening accordingly. So what affects the ability to maintain psychological balance and stability? I think that our perception of ourselves, others, the world around us, events, etc., that is, the way we think, significantly influences. “Life consists of 10% of what happens to us, and 90% of what happens to us.” “HOW WE REACT TO THIS”, Margaret Thatcher We must think constructively, optimistically! Because determining whether some situation or event will be stressful or critical for us is up to us and no one else to decide. Which way do I choose to think? We should not think automatically, impulsively (like an oyster), unconsciously, as if we are being dragged somewhere by the scruff of the neck, but turn on awareness, think analytically, discern and find benefits for ourselves in the events that happened, find new life meanings! This involves a certain level of responsibility - that is, an acknowledgment of one's participation in what is happening, and a positive outlook - that is, an effort to give at least a small positive meaning to the experience. The severity of the impact of difficult situations on people varies - and depends on experience, hardiness to difficulties, general worldview . There are people for whom neither wars, nor disasters, nor economic crises have knocked the ground out from under their feet. But for some, betrayal, slander, and misunderstandings can cause a knockout in life. After all, we are the descendants of those people who survived against all winds, no matter what... famine, genocide, wars, repressions, the Chernobyl accident and many other difficult times. The idea is that the world is actually very different, and in It has everything, goodness, love, and suffering! And if we cannot change something, influence something, we simply accept it as a fact. That, yes, terrible things happen, but it is I who choose what I will take for myself and what I will not focus on. “Yes, it’s terrible, but that’s not the whole of life!” Revolutions, terrors, and famines are happening in the world, and I take my attention from there and move on, I move on... I choose my own position, my own attitude! “If you decide to lose, you will lose,” “If you decide to survive, you will survive!” First of all, this is our own internal decision! If you feel that internal strength is not enough, consider seeking professional help from a psychologist.