A person must have a place. As a child, he is a child, and then he is still a schoolboy and is already responsible for his work, then he is an adult and is responsible for someone, he is already a father, mother, etc. And the place should not be confused, for example, a child cannot replace an adult, become a husband for his mother or a father for his own parents. But it is equally important that the place is consecrated with the love of loved ones - so that a person knows that he is a beloved child, father, husband. The right place with love from others - this is a miracle for a person - his life is happy. And therefore, all his life he unconsciously searches for this place (in the family, at work, with friends). He finds it, but if it does not give love from others, then the person thinks that it is wrong and unconsciously begins to look for another place. And despairing of getting love in another place, a person can become a monster. Moreover, he will remain in full confidence that this is how it should be and that he is not a monster, but only fulfilled what those around him wanted from him - since they don’t love me, i.e. In my understanding, they are monsters, which means I will become one too. Examples at every step. The child does not study well and does not like academic work. Happens. Maybe he'll love you later. But he feels that he is not loved. It’s not that they don’t like him, but he annoys his parents with his refusals to study; they are ashamed and annoyed that they can’t do anything. The child thinks that he is not loved because he is superfluous, that he does not take his place, and begins to unconsciously look for his place, and finds it among those who love him - this is inevitable. Therefore, it is easier to support the child in the difficult transition to school, to support the process of at least some positive educational growth, and to become even kinder to him. This is easier than later getting a monster because the parents themselves have become a monster in the child’s understanding. Of course, there are people who do not want to occupy the place prepared by nature, for example, there is a child, but he never became his father. Or it’s time to become a mother, and the woman puts everything off because she is afraid of losing the independence that she needs for various reasons, mainly the fear of losing her financial position. She knows that no one will build her housing (basic for survival) and no one will provide her with money. This is reality and those women who suffered hardships in childhood or early youth are more afraid of it. For example, the heroine from the film “Zhanna” (dir. K. Statsky, 2022). Zhanna first became an adult in the family, then she remained completely without a place among people - neither mother, nor wife, nor daughter, nor sister, nor lover, nor girlfriend - but ONLY for everyone the breadwinner - a cash cow-robot, while everyone to whom she gave money and ideas called her a bad word, and she heard it and knew it, and did not understand why. Those. There is NO place for her (they make it clear that she should disappear, she is not just superfluous, but disgusting, and ruins their whole life). As a result, Zhanna, who loves people, turns into the very monster that everyone so wants to see in her. I highly recommend watching a talented film - it makes you REVIEW your relationships with people. Our place is in the unconscious and literal messages from others - what they want from us, what place we are entitled to. And the person unconsciously follows the instructions. Message 1: Get up, Count, great things await you. And a person unconsciously strives for the highest and will not lose his honor. Message 2 as in the film “Pokrovsky Gate”: Khobotov, you are ridiculous! This will be funny - since this is the appointed place. Dear reader! Let's exchange opinions on this matter. Contact me for help not only if you want to solve your problem, but also if you want a higher quality of your life, to achieve greater success in all areas of life. Appointment only SMS +79119887123, WhatsApp.