A person may find it difficult to ask for something directly. With what it can be connected? There are several reasons for playing the “Guessing Game”: It’s scary to get rejected. To ask for something, you need to know well what and when you need it. Many people (especially overweight women) have great difficulty with this. A person does not allow himself to have and satisfy his needs. If I say directly what I want, there will be no surprise. If we are talking about a gift, then this is still acceptable. Although, even in this case, disappointment often arises: they could have given something better. Secondary (hidden) benefit Let's look at secondary benefits today. We are not talking about gifts here; requests can concern any area of ​​life - material, emotional, physical. What secondary benefits can look like and why we need them: While a person does not realize what I want, he constantly thinks about me. Especially if it is a loved one and he/she cares about how I feel. He/she tries to find a way to please me. Those. I own his thoughts and attention. He may not guess and this is the reason for accusations and claims. Through guilt it is easy to manipulate and promote your influence on another. He will turn himself inside out to get rid of this oppressive feeling of guilt. Or he will make counter-accusations. That’s also good, release the accumulated tension. Quarrels in the family occur precisely on the principle of mutual accusations, when in the end no one remembers how it all began. And most importantly, they don’t remember why they started a scandal now, what they wanted as a result. There was an outburst of negative emotions, relief came. If they themselves guessed about my desires and satisfied them. I didn’t ask you and I don’t owe you anything. I'll rejoice quietly. There are nothing but advantages; who would refuse them? So much excitement and games! And if you directly ask and accept with gratitude. Ugh, what a bore;) The game “Guess” also has its downsides - disappointment due to unfulfilled hopes and unjustified expectations. Friends, if you liked the article, I would be grateful for your repost. I’m always glad to see you on my B17 page https://www.b17.ru/nfinogenova/#article Subscribe! Let's meet more often.