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1. We must put pressure on the child’s conscience! “We agreed, and you promised that you would not ask for anything else. Now I can’t trust you anymore!” This does not solve the problem of hysteria. Perhaps even the child will stop asking for a while, but at what cost! He will know that they do not trust him, they consider him a deceiver who does not know how to keep his promises. He may even suspect that he is not loved.2. It is necessary to intensively shame the child so that he finally understands how wrong he was! “Shame on you to behave this way. Why are you yelling, people are looking at you?! This is not what we came here for! You yourself wanted to choose a gift for your friend. You’re just selfish and greedy!” In this situation, the child understands that he did something bad, but he cannot understand why wanting a toy is bad?! This parental statement gives the child the understanding that he is bad. So, he will not learn to share, and he will not learn to treat himself well.3. Point out to your child that he is rude. “Were you raised in the forest?!” You can't shout in the store! Didn’t I teach you?!” The child will feel guilty, but will not stop wanting a new toy. He will learn to hide his feelings.4. If you have a boy, be sure to emphasize that only naughty girls cry! “Look, I went crazy! Like a girl. And I thought that men don’t do that!” This phrase will give the boy the understanding that girls are bad. Most likely, it will be more difficult for him to understand girls, and subsequently women.5. Train your child to have patience. Be sure to spend a long time shopping. After all, you want to choose the best. Better yet, take your child to several stores, carefully looking at all the products. “Let’s go back to that department, maybe there’s a promotion.” Perhaps the child will have enough patience at first, but then the variety of goods will increasingly provoke him to ask for a purchase. Let’s imagine that there is a child who has enough patience for A unpleasant circumstances. In a difficult situation for himself, he can try VERY hard and endure even B circumstances. But if adults are too demanding and expect too much from him, then they can offer him not A + B, which he is ready to tolerate, but also C! And the child can no longer bear these A + B + C! And he becomes “capricious” and “disobedient”!6. When you meet a friend in a store, be sure to ask her in detail how she is doing, discuss all your mutual friends, and even better, the latest episodes of your favorite TV series. At the same time, do not forget to pull the baby back so that he stands still and is not distracted by toys. Remember that you must tell in detail about your own problems, especially about how it has become impossible to go shopping with your child. The effect will be even greater if the baby hears all this. While you are talking, the child will have enough time to choose a purchase and think about how to offer it to you. And “listening” to your thoughts about him will only add to the child’s feeling of guilt.7. Lie to your child more often! Tell them that this is not for sale! The child will grow up and will definitely understand that everything in the store is for sale! But then he will have a hidden grudge against you and he himself will learn to deceive.8. Blackmail and manipulate! Mom: “I won’t buy this for you, let’s better take the juice.” Child: “No, mom, I want lollipop.” Mom: “Okay, then we won’t take you anything at all today.” Here the child will either agree with you, or will cry even more from resentment. In my opinion, it’s worse if he agrees with you, in which case he will learn the lesson of manipulation and will actively use it (especially in relation to his parents).9. Be inconsistent. First, tell your child firmly that today you will not buy him anything, but when you hear the first cry, immediately buy something so that he does not disgrace his mother! This lets the child understand that his tears are an instrument of influence! “If you yell for a long time, then mom will give up.”10. And now the last straw. Just tell your child what it is that you don’t love him that is screaming. After that you can

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