From the author: sobesednik.kiev.ua What kind of girl are you looking for? Good in all respects. Well, you understand that absolutely everyone will understand this phrase in their own way. I know. Then what do you mean in the word “good” - what is good for you? Relationships, normal relationships. And you yourself know what men want... The fact is that men too often do not know what they want, however, like women - this is where all the problems come from. We constantly appeal to each other through the substitution of concepts. For example, a simple “I want ice cream” can mean anything. From a hint of “stay with me a little longer, because I need your attention” to a real “I want ice cream,” which, by the way, is much less common. What do we have? Mutual misunderstanding is a deplorable result. Well, you'll have to live with it... So. Let's exhale. Together. The client expects support from me and remains silent. Are you sure you want to live with this? I understand it's a stupid question. But still, why this angelic humility? Are there options? There are. I take another significant pause. And??? Do you have any idea what she should look like, what she should be interested in, what she should love??? Who? The same one with whom you compare all the girls around. After all, you have a certain ideal image inside you, the censorship of which is almost impossible to pass. Most likely, this is so. How do you assess your chances of finding her ideal now? Almost equal to zero. Why? It’s unlikely that I’m suitable for her - she’s too good. And who will suit her? A serious guy in a Mercedes. Girls love people like that. So, you don’t give yourself a single chance,” I drawl slowly and clearly, “so you’re pushing yourself, a masochist or what?” – I provoke harshly, but what should I do? I need him to come to his senses, so that he stops being humble, so that he wants to fight for his happiness here and now. I thought you would give me answers! So, the first defense went. It's called shifting responsibility. Someone else's head is always smarter. Accordingly, she, a stranger, must be blamed. Fine. We continue the conversation. And I was sure that we would find them together. You are not helping. Now I feel even more like life is shit. And mine - even more so. Why is yours even more so? Let's honestly consider what is bad and what is good with you? Everything is bad: no girlfriend, no job. Time is running out of your ears, but there’s nothing to do. What’s good? Nothing. Rope, soap? Again, you’re on your own! Already smiling. This means he starts to think positively. I have orders. If I manage to do at least half of it, I can go somewhere to Turkey to relax. More? Finally, I got to the house, put things in order, washed the dog - now we are clean. Cool! Is the dog big? No. Dachshund. Nornaya. Funny. Yeah. What about my friends? I often hang out in ace. But not that. It seems they have everything the same as me. They're just cheering up. What do you have? Complete bullshit. I used to live for a girl. Before that I just lived. Now I tried to live for myself - I’m bored, I don’t have the strength. Tea? Maybe. I prepare the tea leaves, carefully grinding the tea grains. He involuntarily gets carried away and begins to observe. Why are you trying so hard? To make it taste better for us. Tea, it can give a lot if served correctly. First, second sip. I savor the tart fragrant drink, the client begins to get involved. This is natural - after all, as soon as we remove the blinders of chronic dissatisfaction, we instinctively begin to strive for what is good. How often do you do what you really like? Mmm. Don't know. I didn't think about it. What? You know, as they say, like attracts like. If you are not happy with yourself, with life, the world will definitely support you in your dissatisfaction and multiply it. And you will radiate joy and love, and you will have more of it... Philosophy is everything... How can I say it. You can’t argue with the law of gravity - and this is its consequence, only at the level of thoughts. And what if I think that I’m awesome and it will be so? Well, if you really decide what’s awesome for you, then this is it and it will be exactly like that. Where’s the catch? It’s in our brains. The two of us are already giggling. And the slogan “our healthy humor will drive your depressive syndrome under the plinth” Yes, they are brains!