My deepest conviction is that “adult children” are people who are already adults in their years, and still psychologically immature. What does it mean, psychologically immature? This means never got to know themselves: they don’t understand themselves; do not notice themselves; do not realize what they feel, what they sense; They do not understand what needs they have. Adult children do not know how to cope with their emotional states, while in their imagination they paint pictures of what is not there. And as a result, they cannot begin to build healthy relationships both with themselves and with their parents, children, work colleagues, and so on. Where to start growing up, in which there is so much joy, childlike ease, pleasure? My recommendation: start learning your feelings. This is necessary in order to know how you are now and, in accordance with this, build relationships without being driven into feelings of guilt, anger, irritability, shame, but to begin to choose what suits you. First, get to know your basic feelings that are associated with five human senses: visual sensations, auditory sensations, olfactory sensations, tactile sensations, taste sensations. Explore your sensations every day. What is pleasing to your eye? What are the pictures, colors, images, etc.? What is pleasing to your ears? What is pleasing to your body? Explore step by step how you sit, walk, eat. Notice the taste of food and its smell. Note whether you feel comfortable in a particular outfit. The more you can learn about yourself, the closer you will come to understanding what really suits you. And then, based on this, you can begin to choose what is inherent in your comfort. I guarantee that as soon as you learn enough information about yourself, you will stop being driven into feelings such as guilt, shame, irritability, anger. You will finally be able to do what lies in your zone responsibility. For example, you will simply move away from the person who insults you. You will refuse when you know what is not suitable for you, or agree when it is suitable. You will choose what will give you pleasant feelings in life. You will finally be able to take your personal responsibility for what happens to you in life, as you will learn to notice yourself. Try and you will definitely succeed.