From the author: When we are led by childhood decisions, we cannot solve adult problems. Our body is very wise, much wiser than our smart head. If something has formed in our body (extra pounds, illness, wrinkles, runny nose), then there is a great meaning in it, it was definitely necessary, it was the shortest and fastest way to achieve the goal (according to our subconscious). And we learned this in very early childhood, when the child has no life experience, no strength, no intelligence, no money, he only has a body. For example, did your parents work a lot, pay little attention, but attention and love are necessary? What should the baby do? There is only one answer to requests and whims: “I’m tired, go play, don’t bother me, you’re not little anymore.” What can the child do? Of course, use what is available to achieve the goal. Let’s say you organize an illness, at first it’s a mild one, but if it’s not dealt with, it can be even more severe, then attention and care are guaranteed, and the grandparents will also come to stay. The price is high, but the choice here is small. It’s the same with being overweight. Sometimes parents unconsciously rely on the child as an adult (they transfer responsibility for his life to him ahead of time, force him to make decisions that are too early for him to make, etc.) The child loves his parents very much and “grows up” in an accessible way - he grows a big body for himself and weighs like an adult, takes responsibility for everyone and gets sick. These are all childish ways of solving problems. But we don’t notice that when we become adults, we often don’t change our tactics, we act like we did in childhood. Instead of asking “Hold me, I don’t have enough attention,” we get sick or eat sweets. Instead of reducing the load or asking for help, we gain weight in order to become bigger, stronger and more resilient. We worked with one of my clients on the issue of excess weight. And it turned out that with these extra pounds, she feels able to cope with the fact that she works 2 jobs, pays a mortgage and also supports her parents. It seems impossible to cope without them. The work was based on the fact that we were looking for other ways to feel strong, to rely not only on the body, but also on skills, life experience, and other people. She had to learn this. Our psyche is designed in such a way that once a solution to a problem has been adopted and worked successfully, we will use it all the time, in all similar cases, without taking into account our growth and experience, simply automatically, simply because it once helped. This continues until we consciously cancel this decision and replace it with a new one. Think about what childhood decisions you are using now, maybe it's time to replace them?