I would like to dedicate this article to Yulenka Buinova. I accidentally came across a newspaper clipping about Yulka’s passing. Of course, all this was a long time ago and then very unexpected. A week before this happened, the next part of Fast and the Furious came out, and we went to the cinema for the very last showing. Then it was already about 4 in the morning, we were walking along Krasnaya and discussing the naked torso of Vin Diesel, and in his case there was definitely something to discuss. We laughed all the time... And Yulka was also in love, since the object of her love was also familiar to me, we, of course, also discussed the possibility of him having cubes. He seemed so special to her... And all evening I listened about about what an incredibly warm look he has and an attractively sexy smell. She thought that he was also in love, and maybe, if not completely, then it could be easily fixed. You can change your state or look in a special way, do something, and he will definitely invite her on a date... Then we studied NLP, just like that boy. We trained constantly, calibrated, tracked oculomotor reactions. And our communication from the outside looked something like this: - So your eyes are now looking to the side, that is, you hear sounds, and now it’s like an internal dialogue, now sensations... - Well, I mixed up left and right again (this is about me, of course)... It seemed to us that nothing was impossible. And the boy you like will definitely reciprocate your feelings, and also that he communicates more often with other girls because he wants to attract her attention, he doesn’t ask her out because he’s shy, maybe not so, but there’s a shortage of some resources were definitely attributed to him. And I walked and thought how much we love girls, justify the guys we like, come up with theories and not notice the truth.... But the truth was that this guy had enough of everything to invite him on a date the girl he liked. Unfortunately, that girl was me back then. We only had one date, for which I managed to be 2 hours late (I never did that again) and on which I chose our friendship with Yulka. Remembering this now, I understand that it was the right choice, definitely a conscientious one... We also dreamed then of becoming psychologists, and the coolest psychologists at that. Re-read hundreds of books, attend a lot of seminars, and also help a huge number of people, at least become a little happier. And every time something didn’t work out, and believe me, there were many such moments when you wanted to give up everything and another failure seemed The last straw was that I remembered that, unlike Yulka, I have the opportunity to achieve what I want, but she no longer has it. And she got down to business at an even more intense pace, for the two of us... And when I see how married couples reunite after difficult trials, when, after terrible sobs, the face of the person sitting opposite in the chair brightens and at the end of therapy he feels light, when he has the confidence that he can do anything, I understand that he is really on the right path. It’s all about don’t miss opportunities, achieve your goals no matter what, love and appreciate every day! With love and gratitude for your trust, Nina.