Criticism hurts ❗️⠀How often have you caught yourself thinking that criticism addressed to you is very difficult for you?⠀How often have you experienced a range of unpleasant feelings after critical statements addressed to you? And for the next few days they could not “digest” what they heard, all returning to those words in an attempt to answer differently, to change the situation, to justify themselves, or to prove that they were right?⠀What does it feel like when your manifestation in the form of words, actions, creativity is subjected to critical evaluation? ⠀🔊Yes, criticism hurts, injures, reduces self-esteem, and sometimes destroys!⠀What happens when, in response to some manifestation of oneself, a person receives a negative critical statement addressed to him? Why is this so painful and traumatic? Imagine, a person presents himself in the form of his opinion/vision/creation. At this moment he opens up, trusts, lifts the veil of his inner world, presents himself to everyone’s attention, and in response - a negative devaluing judgment, for example: “I don’t like it at all!” or “couldn’t you come up with something more interesting?” or “a three-year-old child can do that” or “at least he wouldn’t embarrass himself with such and such...”. And then, depending on the strength of criticism, this person is faced with the fact that he and his inner world are not liked, that his vision is denied, that he is bad. A person feels that he does not suit the other, does not fit, is bad and is not needed. He feels crossed out, wrong, devalued, unimportant and bad...⠀At this moment, trust and the desire to open up again, speak up, create and express oneself are reduced or shattered, depending on the strength of the criticism he faces. ⠀I think each of us knows this feeling. To one degree or another.⠀And sometimes, unbeknownst to ourselves, having thrown a critical word at someone, we may not even think about how it could hurt another...⠀⏩In therapy, it is possible to work with a painful reaction to criticism , devaluation and related trauma.⠀If this topic resonates with you, I invite you to psychotherapy and consultations! Psychologist Yulia Ogneva, tel 8-916-603-6553.