One old Eastern proverb says, “It takes a whole village to raise one child.” Nowadays, young parents are increasingly being cut off from their families of origin. At best, the child receives attention from mom and dad. At worst, the burden of upbringing falls entirely on the shoulders of only one parent - as a rule, the mother. Raising a child is a large burden of responsibility, which requires a large amount of both internal and external resources from the parent: financial (to provide the child with everything necessary), mental ( to be able to cope with our emotional states and be in friendly contact with the child), and temporary (to find time to maintain not just formal communication, but for a deep spiritual connection). And therefore, to raise one child, we really need a whole village . But we are not talking about a settlement of several houses, but about a certain community of people who know each other well and can provide the necessary support to their members. In attachment theory, such a community is called a village of attachments. These can be either close relatives or like-minded people united by common areas of activity. I invite you to think about whether you have such a “village”. And if it doesn’t exist yet, try to answer the following questions for yourself: If I were part of such a community based on support and respect, what could I bring to it? What qualities and traits of mine can attract or inspire other people? Where can I find people who have similar values ​​to me? Do I think it is possible to provide support to those close to me who need it? Do I consider myself worthy/worthy of such support when I need it? How can I ask for this? What prevents me from asking for such support? Do I know how to support myself and be the first person for myself who can support me in difficult times and show sympathy? If I have a hard time being compassionate to myself, how can I learn to do so? I would love if what you receive will help you find your “attachment village.” And remember that a safe and supportive community is an important resource not only for you, but also for your child. After all, by communicating with adults close to him, he not only learns different ways and styles of interaction, but also gets the opportunity to rely on their support in situations when he does not dare to approach you for advice. © Slavkina Olga Konstantinovna