The Inner Child is a part of our psyche, our personality, which expresses the image of our true “I”, the potential of the individual, its balance, integrity and vitality, direct self-expression, the ability to find way out of any situation, acceptance and openness to the world. A person with a healthy part (Inner Child) behaves at ease, creatively, playfully and joyfully. He knows how to sincerely laugh at himself and what happens to him. He is in harmony with himself and the world around him. An Inner Child lives in each of us. Is it a girl or a boy, each inner child has its own age, most often this is the age when the wound occurred, when he began to experience pain. Sometimes this is an entire kindergarten, if there have been many traumatic episodes. All the child needs is complete acceptance of him as an individual, understanding and satisfaction of his true needs, laying down positive images of himself and his future life. If parents provide these conditions, the child grows up safely and becomes a happy and successful person, realizing his creative potential. If your parents' needs were not met when they were children, it will be difficult for them to meet your needs. Well, of course, this is ideal; in reality, we are all traumatized, some to a greater, some to a lesser extent. Parents can make fun of their children and not allow them to express their true feelings. They find it difficult to respect their children as individuals. As a result, they lie, beat, threaten, isolate, disbelieve, despise, coerce, humiliate and invade their personal space: “Your hands are from the wrong place! Who needs you like that! It would be better if you weren't here! I wish I had an abortion like I was planning to! I sacrificed everything for you, and you...!” A negative image of himself is formed in the subconscious of such a child. And then many deny themselves in childhood. We no longer want anything to do with this scared and stupid child. This is how self-rejection and self-dislike arise. We lose contact with our real selves—the inner child—and we stop hearing ourselves. “Wounded” children grow up and begin an independent life. But they only look like adults. They suffer from countless wounds, they are not easy to heal, but they are easy to touch and stir up in adulthood. Almost every child makes a “secret oath” to himself that when he grows up, he will not say to his children those words or do the actions that he said or done to him. Unfortunately, many as adults find themselves breaking this oath, saying or doing to their children exactly what they did to them, and often using the same methods or words. Why does this happen? In the internal structure of our psyche there is also an Inner Parent - this is a projection of our real parents, an image. and it may happen that the real parents are no longer in the world. But in the human psychic structure, the “Inner Parent” is still “raising” the Inner Child. Such a vicious circle of cruelty will be passed on unchecked from generation to generation if this pattern is not changed. To do this, you need to heal your inner child. Therapy and a good specialist can help with this. Or you can take care of and cherish your wounds and scars for a very long time. This provides a number of advantages. You don’t have to grow up, you don’t have to take responsibility for your life “to spite your mother.” You can endlessly prove something - and this is how a goal in life appears. And very often this is exactly what we do. We constantly remember how unfairly our parents treated us. How we were offended or humiliated. And here I am not making excuses for parents, this is their responsibility, and it is our responsibility to make our lives happy (as much as possible) from the “inheritance” that we received. The position of a small offended child can be very beneficial. If not for one thing, while we chew our grievances and claims, our life passes. We can't live