So, today is a prequel (preface, introduction) to the guide (guide) for first dates. HOW TO FIND THE PERFECT PAIR - sounds pretentious, doesn’t it? Meanwhile, this is exactly what the desire to find a good person for a successful relationship sounds like. Let's admit, many, very many have not yet given up the illusion of the ideal. And such an illusion is fraught with self-deception and rather sad consequences and disappointments. As you already understand, there are no ideal people, there are no ideal couples, and there are no ideal relationships, respectively. And you know, thank God, otherwise we would be in an eternal pursuit of the ideal and would not know happiness at all. It is into this trap that people who believe in the ideal fall. So let's part with this irrational and harmful belief. And let this be a relief. Naturally, if you are a reasonable person, having parted with faith in the ideal and ideal, you will not run to connect your life with the first person you meet. And no one will punish you for stopping believing by lack of love. On the contrary, it will become much more possible than before. Think for yourself, it will be possible to look at many people, weigh it, feel it. And don’t wait for years for a miracle, a bright magical flash of love, a special incredible person. Once you get rid of this illusion, you will begin to notice more beautiful people. Simply because before you were tuned in to something that didn’t exist and didn’t see the rest. And now it’s as if your eyes will be opened. Yes, not all of them will suit you, not all of them will work out. But it will be possible to get acquainted, try, get to know others, get to know yourself through others. And stop with someone closer in spirit, in views, in feelings of warmth and kinship and start a relationship. Meanwhile, I can make this search easier for you. A guide for first dates will be through the article. And the next post will be about what you need to know about yourself before looking for a match. For those who read to the end, secret information: people have a super ability to really find the perfect match, which will reflect their psychological problems (converge neuroses). For example, if you are afraid of being abandoned, then there are those who are inclined to quit. Therefore, before any guides, to help find a couple, it is important to read the following article.