❓ Have you ever felt irritation, aggression or a desire to shut down when communicating with other people? Or a loss of strength and energy, as if you were unloading cars, and not just communicating with a person? I am sure that this happens to almost everyone, of course, unless you are a superman 💪💪💪Often this is a sure sign that your personal boundaries are being violated. Violation of personal boundaries can happen in different ways when people:🔸invade your personal space “without knocking”🔸they take up your time with things you don’t want to do🔸they use your things without your consent🔸they pour out their emotions on you when you are not ready for it🔸they try to impose something on you, convince you, prove it🔸we ourselves can fail our own boundaries when we cannot say “no” and agree to what we cannot or do not want to do. In these situations, you have at least three options for reaction: 1️⃣Hardly and aggressively defend your borders, suppressing or destroying the violator.2️⃣Humble and endure, pretending that everything is fine. True, when dissatisfaction and irritation from failing our own boundaries accumulate, this again throws us back to point No. 1.3️⃣I finally learn to calmly say “no”, not promise what you cannot or do not want to do, freely express your needs, voice your right to choose, while maintaining respect for your interlocutor. The first two options lead to a deterioration or rupture of relationships; someone will definitely feel bad in them. The third option requires internal maturity from a person: the ability to feel and voice their needs, the ability to say “no” , the ability to use your freedom of choice. And only by learning to feel and respect the boundaries of yourself and other people does it become possible to enter into sincere relationships, create true intimacy and long-term partnership. Because everyone benefits from this! Why am I saying this)) Friends, let’s learn to feel and respect our own and other people’s boundaries! And then life will become easier and more joyful ☀️Are you violating your own or other people’s boundaries? Or more often does someone violate yours? Sincerely, Your psychologist Anton Ustinov If you want to analyze your individual case and find a solution, then sign up for a consultation Telegram, WhatsApp +7 926 010 80 82