From the author: When a wife finds out about the existence of a mistress, few, if any, are happy. Although there are such instances. Everyone reacts differently, just like in any other difficult life situation. I will not try to teach here the only correct reaction, but will try to outline a certain angle from which you can look at the situation and notice additional details and even bonuses. Analyzing the experience of different couples, at some point, I thought about how important the role is mistress or lover to harmonize relations between a man and a woman. Maybe someone will think that I’ve gone crazy and put betrayal on a pedestal. Here, I’m not talking about the pedestal at all, but more about the fact that such a role is often underestimated by all participants in the process. Previously, I touched on other aspects of fidelity and infidelity, but now I would like to dwell on the “relationship” between wife and mistress. When a wife finds out about the existence of a mistress, few, if any, rejoice. Although there are such instances. Everyone reacts differently, just like in any other difficult life situation. I will not try to teach here the only correct reaction, but I will try to outline a certain angle from which you can look at the situation and notice additional details and even bonuses. What can you say thank you to her “dear” for?! 1) For her courage . If a woman decides to be a lover, to be in a relationship with a married or busy man, she is definitely brave. Do not think that only a woman who is insecure or has some limitations will agree to such a role. Sometimes women don’t know that a man is in a relationship, sometimes they know and still agree, each for their own reasons. When a mistress does not know about his wife, a man can delay revealing this truth until the last moment. After all, the longer the relationship, the stronger the feelings can be, and then she may not leave, even if she finds out. The important point is that women are capable of working miracles, so mistresses sincerely believe that men will separate from their wife or companion. Some do leave, but this happens rarely, much more than other reasons why couples break up. It’s clearer and more stable with my wife, a place has already been set up there, why take the risk?! Moreover, if the feeling of guilt in front of your wife, children and loved ones is so toxic that it is impossible to survive it, and then why risk your own life and health?! Very often these things are ignored by the mistress, because, knowing this, it is difficult for her to remain in a relationship with a busy man. The point is that such a lover believes in this man, and this gives him strength and courage for new victories in life. Why is this not an argument for you, because it is you who enjoy the fruits of these achievements. She boldly risked being and believing in him.2) For the development of a man. This is a great opportunity for your man to develop. Through his mistress, he learns a lot of new things about himself, about life, about relationships, about how other people live, what they do, what they earn. Such a free personal growth consultant. Years of therapy cost a fair amount of money and effort, but they are worth it and more. But more often people look where it is simpler and quieter. Yes, she can also be pretty, this can just help him notice the beauty in you or update his knowledge about you, and also allow him to notice not only beauty, but also how you differ from your mistress. 3) For strengthening relationships. I think this is the coolest and most controversial bonus. Yes, I am convinced that a mistress strengthens the relationship and “works” for the wife and their marriage. With a mistress, he is more often desired, they wait for him, they believe in him, they do not solve everyday issues with him. A satisfied and confident male returns home with a slight feeling of guilt, but happy and calm. Moreover, without any complaints against you, after all, you yourself are not a saint, and then you can be capricious to your wife. Or he appreciates you more for being like that with him/5379/1/