In the flow of clients on the website and in face-to-face requests, the theme of communications with the aggressor shines through as a red thread. And, as a rule, a request in this direction is hidden behind quite nice desires: How to find additional resources for development in the profession? How to improve family life? How to find a soulmate? How to gain self-confidence? How to achieve success? How to get rid of various ailments? During the analysis of short-term counseling, aggression always bursts into the key causal component. It is aggression emanating from others and even passive aggression, which can be veiled under care and pity. And in course therapeutic work, in addition to the aggression of others, its own stream of aggression arises in the round dance, which, if it does not find a way out, turns into an instrument of auto-aggression. This is aggression - and it can provide an amazing resource, like throwing firewood into a firebox and can burn it to the ground if a person doesn’t know how to handle it like fire. An aggressor in the home is the cause of many troubles and broken psychological souls. The aggressor is undoubtedly strong mentally and physically. His taut strings of emotional irascibility are always ready for battle. Even in peacetime. And a state of peace and quiet for a pathological aggressor is a signal of alarm and danger. How can the surrounding relatives avoid falling into the pit of victimhood? After all, everything depends on the age of the person in this family clan. It is better to give young children the opportunity to physically experience emotion - a response to aggression. This could also be retaliatory aggression (according to the scenario - he got scared and hits back). Techniques for beating bags, pillows, breaking unnecessary things and much more. It could be fear (playing hide and seek, hiding in response to the emotion of aggression from a significant adult) It could be fear, like the desire to run away. And as a way to satisfy this need, providing active movement to children. Again, this article has many ways for children. What about being an adult? After all, adults are children in the past. And if your reaction to the aggressive attacks of a loved one casts you into the role of a Little Child, then feel free to use all of the above methods. Go in the opposite direction! Of course, in a word, preferably seasoned with humor. Hit physically (objective aggression), imagining the face of your offender. By doing this you will not offend him, but will save yourself! So there will be more questions and requests, feel free to contact us! Courage and determination are good qualities when working with aggression. The most important thing a person can decide in such communications with an aggressor is to stop communicating! From the word absolutely. If you can’t build your psychological boundaries! Viber, WhatsApp 89271287007 Psychologist Yakovenko Galina