Hello, what to do if a guy and a girl have been dating for a year. At first, the guy didn’t mind that the girl sometimes met with her friends and went to the movies. But now he has banned her from seeing her friends at all. Good afternoon! You can run ahead and tell this lady: “Run!” Without explanation or reasoning. And, of course, within the framework of the question, it is important to understand what dictates such a man’s behavior. Look, first he looks closely at the girl, at her friends, during this period he is often polite and respectful (emphasized). And, at some point, he considers himself to have the right to dictate to a stranger what and how to do. What kind of metamorphoses are happening to him? At the initial stage, he wants to be liked, he seems to “settle down” himself at this moment in order to earn trust, a good attitude towards himself, he does everything to be believed. It is important here that if he is rejected or not given what he wants, he is doubly ready to be good; it is important for him to like it. But as soon as the girl shows reciprocal feelings for him, the picture instantly turns upside down. He rises above her, at this moment, considering her weak, below himself, and begins to lower her, dictating his own rules. The ban on meeting friends, believe me, is only the first step in a long chain of bullying... by this abuser. Yes, you heard right, it’s him. Obviously, once upon a time, he was treated exactly like this, they didn’t pay attention, they didn’t give love and warmth, and he was forced to constantly experience “humiliation” and “seek” love, each time to no avail . To no avail, because the other side simply did not know how to give it. Therefore, he will do everything to deserve it. Why doesn’t he enjoy love when it favors him? He doesn't know what it is and doesn't know how to handle it. For him, this is weakness, and as soon as he feels it, he reproduces the scenario that he was “taught” - a position from above and being pushed around, ignored. This can also include low self-esteem, but this is already a consequence of the existing relationship with the world. If you stay with him, you will live on a constant “swing”. If you want to improve your relationship, you will face depreciation and pushing around; if you ignore or threaten divorce, he will ask for forgiveness and give gifts. And so on endlessly. His version is an analogue of the mother’s figure, complete ignoring. In this case, he will run after her just as he did in childhood. In this case, he will always be obedient and “good.” If this girl has a desire to constantly “keep” such a man, she can try. But it’s better not to, this is a recommendation. Is it possible to help him and change his behavior pattern. It’s difficult, but it’s possible, and only with his full desire to do it. But this is not your problem, this is his problem and a question to solve. Thanks for the question! *Psychologist online. Solution to your question, Whats App: 8-926-133-29-56, https://www.b17.ru/algorpsy/ https:/, /algorpsy.online/ **Psychodynamic online group: https://www. b17.ru/trainings/online_psychodynamic_group/