It will not be a revelation to anyone that an addicted relative is a disaster. No one will say that their alcoholic parent or drug addict child brought happiness, joy and new colors of life into the house. Addiction not only kills the person who suffers from it, but also poisons the life of everyone to whom he is close. For older family members, a relative who uses drugs may be perceived differently. This can be either a terrible omission or mistake, or a shame for the family. In any case, few people in any culture would have the idea of ​​simply throwing a loved one out onto the street at the first symptoms of illness. Consequently, there will be attempts to save the addict. There are not many options - either through total control, or through support and rescue. In both of these cases, the expected result will not be achieved. For a spouse/partner or friends, the attitude towards the addict is expressed in two possible ways. Either this is an unsuccessful page in my life, and I need to scroll through it and forget it, or this is my cross, and I, as a friend/spouse, am obliged to help him at all costs. If friends with a high degree of probability will in any case sooner or later abandon the addict, then the spouse can really believe and hope to the last that their loved one will improve. The result here is the same - premature funerals and questions: “what was all this for?” and “what’s next now?” This is all that remains after a relationship with an active addict. Children/younger relatives unwittingly perceive the addict as an example, as a model for their future life. Everything here is quite simple and does not require long descriptions: if the elder spends all his time drinking a bottle, then you can easily guess what his child or younger brother/sister will do in the future (especially if they are of the same sex). An addicted adult not only poisons the childhood of a younger relative, but also destroys his future life from the very beginning. The conclusion from the article is simple - active use is detrimental not only for one person, but also for the entire family system of which he is a part. Loved ones most often, because they are codependent, suppress themselves. They cannot leave their loved one and adapt to his illness. It is not life that begins, but survival. Those closest to you most often suffer the most, but their influence on the addict is also the strongest. Often, he simply does not and cannot have other authorities. Therefore, relatives can help their loved one who has fallen into the arms of addiction. I will tell you how to do this environmentally and efficiently in my article tomorrow..