If we talk about human changes in the process of therapy from the point of view of transactional analysis, the horizon line that we strive for one way or another is the ability to exercise autonomy. Autonomy is the ability to be aware, spontaneity and intimacy. Eric Berne did not provide a more complete definition, leaving room for more thoughtful and thorough research by subsequent generations of transactional analysts. And yet, there is something on which TA specialists probably agree: awareness, spontaneity, intimacy come from thoughts-feelings-reaction to reality “here and now”, and not through the prism of scenario ideas and beliefs. Awareness (yes, yes, mindfulness, which is fashionable today) is the ability to live your life, focusing on the current moment: • be in bodily contact with your sensations, without freezing or becoming agitated (for example, sometimes people become so physically frozen that they may not notice a stiff leg or hunger signals for hours );• be able to experience authentic emotions without censorship (for example, some people, when angry, instead worry or cry);• notice and respond to external stimuli (for example, instead of enjoying food, a person may replay work in his head tasks, mechanically continuing to eat, in fact ignoring the stimulus 'taste of food'); you decide whether you will laugh, get angry, or cry because a white cat slept on your black sweater). For mindfulness practice, I like the book “Mindfulness” by Danny Penman and Mark Williams. How to find harmony in our crazy world”, which strikes an excellent balance between the scientific basis of the method and tasks for independent work. However, even without reading the book, there are many options for developing mindfulness skills - these are any practices that help you hear what is happening to you now For example, right now you can take 1 minute (it’s really not long, check) and pay attention to how you breathe: fast or slow, deep or shallow, freezing or free. And next time we’ll talk about spontaneity. More notes can be read in my blog “Space to Be”"