Yes, children need unconditional love. This means loving him not for his good behavior or grades, but simply because he is YOUR child. Not for ANYTHING, but BECAUSE he is yours. However, it is not enough to have unconditional love for your children in your heart; you need to be able to convey it, to convey it to your children. This is a problem of communication between the heart of a parent and the heart of a child, each of which may have its own love language. In this regard, the task of parents is, firstly, to find out the love language that the child’s heart understands and, secondly, to love him in his love language, and not in his own. What are these love languages? Words of encouragement and support Try to talk about your love as often as possible. If words are your child's love language, there can never be too many of them. In addition, it is important not just to say kind words, but also to praise your child. Praise is gratitude for what he did, what he achieved himself, what cost him effort. However, it is important that your children know that, regardless of whether they achieve the result or not, you will still value them highly. Let them relax and know that they have the right to make mistakes. After all, we value our child’s efforts more than his achievements. We value our child's inner strengths more than his efforts. Time spent with children If you find a lot of time for children, it means you love (in their children’s understanding), but if you don’t, you don’t love them. By the way, many children, not receiving enough love, begin to do all sorts of nasty things, and not at all because they are naughty, but because they are desperately looking for your attention. For them, being punished is much better than being abandoned. How to spend time with children? There are many options: - eating together, - active recreation, walks, cycling, - reading a book to children before bed, - helping children around the house. Watch your children, if, while doing something with you, they glow with happiness, that means , for them this is exactly what true love is. Gifts A gift is something that is given just like that, but with the purpose of expressing love. A gift is a symbol of an existing relationship, it is a symbol of love. However, parents often use a gift as a way to manipulate a child, for example, a payoff. Some parents, for one reason or another, do not look for ways or approaches for their child; instead, all their lives they simply try to buy him off, replacing themselves with a gift. So, remember that a gift, if there really is love behind it, can remind the child of it for many years, and sometimes all his life. Touch From the first years of life until the end of life, loving touches can be important for many of us, including your child. Moreover, this is not just their emotional need; the lack of physical contact with parents leads to physical and mental disorders. However, touching should not be limited to games; do it both before and after play. For example, straightening your child's hair, touching his shoulder, patting his back or knee, and adding a few encouraging words are all expressions of love. So, show your love through touch, especially if you notice that this type of love is especially important to you. child. Help Help is helping a child do something that he is not able to do on his own. Therefore, never do for your child what he can do himself, but on the other hand, do not think that your child must learn or be able to do everything himself. Both are extremes. Our children need our help, but it must be reasonable, only then will it truly be love. For example, while children are small, the job of parents is to tie their shoelaces - this is help. Then the child grows up, and tying his shoelaces is no longer a help, but a harm. To sum up all that has been said, I would like to note that genuine love for your child is not always what it is usually understood and practiced at the level of the average parent. So it's time for all of us.