If you are in a relationship or have once been in one, you will be able to remember how everything happens at the very beginning: sparkling eyes, silly glee, dizzying love, a great desire to please. Intoxicated by each other, a lot of passion. Then the relationship develops rapidly. Time passes. Maybe there is still romance in the relationship. Maybe at one point it disappears and some kind of irritation remains. Perhaps you become reliable partners for each other. Maybe you are not only lovers for each other, but also good friends. Each couple has its own separate world inside. Erich Fromm in his book “The Art of Loving” wrote: If two strangers, as we all are, suddenly allow the wall dividing them to collapse, this moment of unity will become one of the most exciting experiences in life. It contains everything that is most beautiful and miraculous for people who were previously separated, isolated, and deprived of love. This miracle of unexpected intimacy often happens more easily if it begins with physical attraction and its satisfaction. However, this type of love by its very nature is short-lived. Two people get to know each other better and better, their intimacy loses more and more of its wonderful character, until finally their antagonism, their disappointment, their satiety with each other kills what is left of their original excitement. At first they did not know all this; they were truly captured by a wave of blind attraction. The "obsession" with each other is proof of the strength of their love, although it could only indicate the degree of their previous loneliness. In various sources you can read about many important components of a happy and strong relationship: conduct a dialogue, be able to admit your mistakes, find a compromise. Mutual respect is a very important foundation for relationships. Have common goals and aspirations. Don't try to change your partner for yourself. Be tolerant of each other. Understanding that relationships need to be created and built requires some effort. Yes, that's all true. But your relationship is doomed to success if it has an important component: intimacy. The very space where there is the ability to be in balance between intimacy and autonomy. At moments when everyone is busy with their life, work, interests, they begin to feel “hunger” for a partner. And when you meet, that same intimate intimacy arises, where there is only the two of you. Where you want to share your life, emotions, goals and plans, victories and disappointments. This intimacy occurs when the period of conflict has passed. Then you want to have a heart-to-heart conversation, get enough of each other, of this space. It is created by you. And supported by joint ideas, meanings, perspectives. There should be no other people in this space: parents, friends, relatives, etc. It is only yours. Where are you truly close? I wish each of you to create such space in your relationships..