The merger in a relationship can be so strong that when parting, the abandoned person has the feeling that his life has collapsed, all his strength has disappeared somewhere, and the loss is so total that it is experienced as irreparable loss of a vital part. Without which I can't do anything. And I can't do anything. Yes, friends, this happens to many of us, and it is experienced extremely intensely. And if we can look at this a little more detachedly and psychologically, so to speak, then we will first see that separation is experienced precisely this way because perhaps we have invested too much in the other. We gave it our all there. And when the relationship broke down, this turned out to be a trap for us. Because without him or without her, it is as if I cease to exist. And the whole world ceases to exist. Nothing makes you happy and nothing motivates you to move on. And if we go a little further - and such a view is very helpful in such a crisis or will make it possible to prevent consequences in the future - we will see that such experiences are experienced by a child whose mother has been taken away. Whose mother was his whole world, or vice versa, he really missed her. And now, in adulthood, this mother can be a partner. Regardless of gender. Gender doesn't matter at all. And if this happens to us, it means that we have a big deficit coming from childhood - a lack of reliable, nourishing, stable relationships with a parent. Which we will always unconsciously want to restore in a relationship when we grow up. But this childhood need will live in us. And as soon as it does not come true and fails, we will lose ourselves and fall into despair. It’s like we are an abandoned child whose mother left us. And if we can take our experience, and then learn to recognize our projections onto another as a mother, as a parent, and explore our corresponding expectations from such relationships, then we will be able to build relationships in such a way that they enrich us. They inspired us. They supported us. But so that they are no longer our condition of existence. I invite you to open live broadcasts and consultations about relationships, purpose and life’s difficulties. Here you can ask a question about a topic that is relevant to you. You can watch the broadcasts here: https://vk.com/public96588042