"Treason!" - this word evokes a lot of negative emotions in people, such as resentment, anger, irritation and even pain that permeates the whole body. Just the thought of your partner’s infidelity gives you goosebumps, and it feels like the whole world will collapse if this happens. And suddenly it happened!!! A swarm of thoughts flashes through my head: “Why?”, “For what?”, “How to behave with him or her?”, “What should I do next?” etc. To these thoughts is added a feeling of resentment, followed by a lot of accusations against the partner. After which some spouses proceed to decisive, sometimes aggressive actions, which completely destroys the marriage union or turns life together into a nightmare. A hellish mixture of negative emotions and feelings acts like a time bomb, even if one of the spouses tries to pretend that nothing happened. At the same time, he tries to find an excuse for the actions of his spouse, or tries to forget about the unpleasant act of his partner. The desire to hide emotions deep within oneself generates tension and irritation, which spread to everyone around. The spouses begin to move away from each other even more, keeping silent about their feelings. This cannot but be noticed by children, who can also very acutely experience a disagreement between their parents. Resolving the issue of betrayal with conflict and shouting with accusations, you say, is useless, keep silent too! What to do then? First, you need to calm down a little, although it is very difficult, and honestly answer the question “Do you want to save the marriage or not?” If not, then the above is suitable for you, choose any suitable option. If you value your partner, love him and the most important thing for you is to save your family, think about what could be the reason for the appearance of a rival or rival. And based on this, make any decisions. Not everything is so simple, you thought! Why should I think about this! Yes, because you want to save the marriage, which means a lot depends on you. You should not remain silent about your feelings, you need to talk with your spouse about how you feel, the most important thing is not to shout or blame, and try to decide together what to do next. [Not every person thinks about the reasons for betrayal, as they experience strong negative emotions that prevent them from thinking soberly. They can be completely different, ranging from a banal search for new sensations to an attempt to prove to oneself one’s attractiveness. The most common case of the appearance of a rival or rival is the lack of emotional intimacy between spouses. Routine and everyday life can absorb the most sincere feelings between partners, and most married couples fall into this trap. Due to the mass of things to do at work and at home, and taking care of children, spouses forget about each other. And at this moment the search for attention from the opposite sex and new emotions begins. What needs to be done to prevent this from happening: Try to talk to each other more, tell your partner about your feelings, experiences, worries and concerns, as you probably need support. Don’t be silent if you don’t like something, try to talk in a calm manner about what you would like, but don’t blame your partner for what doesn’t suit you. Otherwise, then he will not hear you, but will simply begin to look for excuses, which will result in a conflict situation. Spend your free time together, find a common family hobby, engage in sports with the whole family (skiing, rollerblading, skating, biking...) or some other activity that interests you. Nothing connects people better than common interests. Do not attach importance to little things that often cause irritation. Our life consists of little things and constantly focusing on little things turns our life into a nightmare, try to react more calmly to thrown socks.