I have long wanted to write about the basic categories of Gestalt therapy. For example, about mechanisms for interrupting contact. But at first it seemed to me of no interest to anyone, then it was too simple, then too complicated to explain or understand. It was not clear who needed this. Besides me, first of all, no one needs to write about something, as I now understand. Not all texts are equally useful to others. But my interest is not going away. I want to understand better about seemingly simple things. Are they that simple and what can you do with them? How to take these simple but powerful things into account when working with clients and in your life. I’ll start thinking about it. I don’t like to give away only solid expertise. I like to doubt and decide for myself what a specific concept really is? Build your reality around something generally accepted and generally described. Fortunately, psychology allows us to quite freely interpret and understand what is proposed by the founders of any direction. Psychology is not physiology, it is rather poetry that describes internal “mental” structures that are inaccessible to anyone by touch. I would rather call them information structures that filled the memory cells in the corresponding neurons, and therefore created a personality. So, today a couple, or maybe three words about Deflection. This is the most interesting mechanism for me of interrupting contact with oneself and the world, which is found in every minute of our life. This makes it easy to see, and yet, at the same time, it often remains elusive to awareness - noticing in the here and now - by both therapist and client. Perls, one of the fathers of Gestalt therapy, called this process of talking about nothing eboutism (about) or bull mental shit. Dad considered Gestalt therapy primarily a “therapy of concentration,” focusing on what is really important, the essence of neurosis during conversation with the client, and all the “reasoning about”, both by the client and the therapist, the theory of “how it could be and why this happens” - leading away from this concentration by tricks of consciousness. To avoid the pain of colliding with the reality of how I build relationships , right now, how this process of mine proceeds in the moment when another is present nearby, in my field of vision, and when I am in this person’s field of vision. Facing the truth of life about yourself. Call it whatever you want. With an injury that is always with us in our left pocket. In every contact with people, we will definitely get this trauma several times, and our reactions will not be built as freely as they could - through the cloudy cellophane of this “trauma” of ours. Our creative potential to cope with pain and process it, integrate it as experienced material into the fabric of the psyche is drowned out by these reasoning and “theories about.” Deflection is especially clearly visible at the moment when we ask a person a socially awkward question, for example - when you get married, why don’t you have children? And instead of asking: “What is your business? Or - why is this question, my friend? You have offended someone with your question. Everyone in this place will feel hurt in their own way, depending on what the neurosis-trauma is associated with. Shame, guilt, disgust, fear, despair, sadness, intense discomfort that cannot be called anything other than pain. A person can feel different from this. And, instead of stopping and discovering that he did not like the question or the very form in which it was asked, discover that he does not want to answer or believes that this is his personal business, express his attitude to this issue, he leaves the relationship with you at this moment and goes into the relationship with his fantasies and reasoning. In order not to encounter the truth, namely those deep feelings that arise when a person asks himself this question. Maybe you reminded him that.