Different people come to see me. This incident happened recently and hooked me with a practical approach to relationships. “You see,” a girl of about 30 was upset in a chair, “he is so interesting, strong, smart, a wonderful conversationalist, works in a good company... not married, dates only me, I’m in I’m sure of this. He has a lot of advantages... But I don’t like what’s going on between us.” “He’s busy all the time and there’s always not enough time for me - he has a lot of work, a new project in the future, defending his dissertation... “Here “When this is all resolved,” he says, “then, of course, everything will be different for us.” I see him a couple of times a week, in the evenings, when he comes to see me. We have never gone anywhere together, I don’t know his friends, relatives and he doesn’t know mine... we’ve known each other for more than a year and nothing has changed in that time! I can’t do this anymore!” I asked her what she saw as my help. The client thought and said: “Help me change it.” I think I’m doing something wrong...if you teach me how to make my man more suitable for our relationship, then everything will change for the better.”At that moment I thought - this reminds me of something... Namely, how some girls choose their shoes. A girl sees shoes in a store, she likes them - leather, design. When trying on, it turns out that they are terribly uncomfortable and tight. But there are already solutions - I’ll take it. Beauty is worth the sacrifice. And then the girl has options in her head about what she can do with these shoes to wear them. Namely: You can use the old grandfather’s method and wear your shoes at home in woolen socks soaked in vinegar. Learn to artificially smile when your feet hurt in new shoes, and when you come home, wipe off the blood on the insoles with a cotton swab and alcohol. Another good way to bend your toes correctly in new shoes is almost like a geisha. But always remember at what angle the second finger should be turned to the third. It’s quite possible to hold out for several hours like this. So much suffering for the sake of one pair of soulless shoes... But the man, unlike the shoes, is still alive. I can’t imagine how it can be worn with a woolen sock to the desired state. Having entered into a relationship, a woman often forgets that there is a living person on the other side of the connection. Who does what he wants, whether or not he considers people... He has his own plans for life, his own tastes, preferences in music and food. And if you don’t like something, you have the right to tell him about it. But there is also a chance of getting the answer: “You know, honey, this suits me and I’m not going to change anything.” And you can add as much vinegar as you like, but his opinion will not change. This is the reality that exists now and you cannot change your man. In the case of shoes, you can torture yourself with Chinese torture, or you can take care of your feet - put the shoes on the shelf, sigh, and go in search of another ideal pair. In the case of a man, there is meaning to talk. Talk about your feelings and desires. If a man enters into a dialogue, he is interested in your opinion and is ready to compromise, I think this is your man. And if not, then it’s better to let him go - not to be tormented by vain hopes and not to suffer in vain. Your feet become covered with calluses from uncomfortable shoes, your soul becomes covered with ulcers from uncomfortable relationships. Take care of yourself - your feet and soul. They will come in handy both in boutiques and in relationships..