From the author: We are talking with the client about the problem of assimilating results, appropriating for ourselves what we have done, our skills, abilities, merits. Why is this important - for a confident feeling of oneself, in order not to be afraid of not being able to cope with something that might happen. The girl says: I don’t know how to distinguish “achievement” from “non-achievement”, well, it’s not necessary anyway to praise yourself, maybe “just lucky”... Where is the line after which an ordinary ordinary action becomes an “achievement”? I wonder where this line can be found? The girl continues: the first thought is “if you tried, then you did well.” But behind it the following, another feeling immediately arises: “if you tried for a long time, then the result is natural, try for a long time - and any fool can do it.” Leaving aside for now the ideas that there are “achievements-achievement” and “achievement-not-so-achievement” ", I admire the arrangement of ideas, according to the combination of which, not a single thing can be assigned to itself as an achievement. I didn’t try - nonsense, not an achievement, I was just lucky. I tried - well, of course, nothing surprising, any mediocrity would have succeeded, and so will you mediocrity.Where does this come from? Most likely, in some situations, evaluative emotional statements have become entrenched in the child’s sensitive consciousness, perhaps belonging to different adults, with different points of view on life, or different contexts. The situations and contexts themselves have long been forgotten, and the statements received in them are imprinted in the head, generalized, linked together and work perfectly, practically not giving an adult girl a chance for confident self-esteem. Such jokes often work at the subconscious level, and we are not even aware of it how it works. “Why am I all so insecure...” It’s very useful to catch and re-evaluate such “charms”, filter and sort what can be kept from what was imprinted in childhood and what can be thrown away. I am more and more happy about the people with whom we are creating this opportunity..