In any relationship, conflicts sometimes arise - this is an integral part of our lives. Conflicts are also present in child-parent relationships. In dysfunctional families, a dramatic triangle with three roles often plays out in the relationship between mom, dad and child: Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor. In one of my previous articles: This damn triangle! (Karpman's dramatic triangle) I wrote about it in more detail: https://www.b17.ru/article/42586/ What should a parent do when a child has a conflict with another parent and talks about it? Support the child. Don't judge the other parent's behavior with your child. And don't support the other parent's behavior. Better comfort the child. Support your child in communicating with the other parent to resolve the conflict. Offer to help your child talk to the other parent. Convey to your child that you are not a supporter of creating “triangles” and family secrets. Help your child understand that you will not solve his or her conflict with the other parent, but you can help both the child and the other parent when they want to resolve and resolve the conflict. • Say that if the child's conflict with the other parent is resolved without your help, then you want to know the result. Most likely, at first, such behavior will be unusual for you if previously conflict situations in your family developed differently. If such conflict resolution becomes habitual in your family, then you will understand how effective it is. Below I will describe what not to do in conflict situations developing in the family. Support the child's condemnation of the other parent's negative image. Take sides. Not noticing the child’s experiences or downplaying them. Do not underestimate the importance of the situation in which the child is located • Support in creating family secrets and secrets. • Do not attempt rescue. • Do not unite “two against one.” Such conflict resolution can be useful not only in terms of parent-child relationships, but also for resolving other conflicts in which you are involved as a third party between the conflicting parties. What does such behavior provide in conflicts? The child’s understanding that his needs can be met without participating in the drama triangle and role-playing. This allows the child not to be divided into “good” and “bad” parts and to have a complete image of himself (as happens when playing roles in a triangle). Check out other articles in the collections about parent-child relationships: https://www.b17.ru/selected/191/ and codependency: https://www.b17.ru/selected/178/ and subscribe to read new publications.