Do you know how children love their mother? Of course, with all my heart and under any circumstances. This is understandable - without her they simply cannot survive. It’s good when a mother knows how to be soft and patient. But more often than not, even the kindest mothers sometimes run out of patience, and they allow themselves to lash out. Raise your voice, do not pay attention to the child’s request. Or even spank him. And mom is sometimes not in the mood. For some people this happens from time to time. And for others, it can last for years. Thus, a woman immersed in her feelings can be depressed or, on the contrary, offended and angry. And the whole enormity of her experiences is reflected in one way or another on the child. She doesn’t even have to say anything. It’s enough for her to just be in this state and be nearby - the child will feel everything and count. Or vice versa - constant conflicts with the father, which can no longer be hidden or stopped, are repeated day after day. Someone at least tries not to drag the child into them . Others, on the contrary, are confident that “the child is already an adult” with all the ensuing consequences. Doesn't this combination hurt your ears? For those who chose this position, certainly not. They do their best to drag a very young child into a conflict, saying something like this: “Look how bad your dad is! It’s because of you that he’s angry!” “You’re already an adult, you should talk to your dad so that he doesn’t leave the family - only you you can save her!" It is still worth saying that such passes are strictly prohibited. Since for many it is not at all obvious that a child under no circumstances should solve the problems of the spouses. Moreover, he cannot do this. But learn to forever be the savior of mom and dad, and subsequently of everyone around him - this is welcome. And wean you from this , teaching how to take care of yourself is not so easy! In the head of such a grown-up child, the thought firmly stuck: “Mom is good!” And this blocks the expression of any emotions. And at the same time - the solution to the whole problem. Should you blame your mother? After all, they say that parents do the best they can. To begin with, you just need to accept that your mother is a person like everyone else. This means that she can also make mistakes, not know something, and have her own weaknesses. And therefore, the child has the right to anger and indignation towards her, if all this manifests itself in the child’s gender. Awareness of this thought will allow you to remove strict demands on yourself and your mother. Accept and process all emotions without having to avoid them and carefully hide them. And this is exactly what we achieve in therapy...