From the author: Harmful advice from a psychologist. About how to make a relationship unbearable. Continuing the topic of conflicts in partnerships, I would like to look at what behavioral strategies and phrases in a conflict or quarrel will definitely help to intensify the conflict even more. So, 10 harmful tips on how to make your relationship unbearable: As soon as your partner wants to speak, interrupt him . Don't let him finish his thought. Let his need to be listened to remain unsatisfied; Ignore and devalue your partner’s feelings. This will work best if you use the phrases: “This is complete nonsense,” “What nonsense!”, “What kind of nonsense are you talking about!”, “And in general, it’s not offensive!”, “There’s no point in being offended by the truth!”; Downplay your partner’s contribution and exaggerate your merits (“You don’t do anything, everything in our family/relationship is only thanks to me!”, “If it weren’t for me...”) By the way, you will achieve a special “effect” if you can “drive” through to his/her relatives, remembering all their mistakes, counting all the gifts that were not given, ambiguous hints, etc.; Belittle your partner, evaluate not his actions, but his personality, label him, categorically make a “diagnosis”; Do not admit in any way your wrongness (even if it is obvious) and blame your partner for what happened (or, again, his/her mother); Distort the information, split it up, take phrases out of context. And even better - remember to your partner what happened 100 years ago (be sure to exaggerate and embellish); Yell at the top of your lungs, talk in a raised voice, this is what you need now! Compare your partner with someone (“But Mashkin Kolya manages to do everything. He earns money and goes out with the children." And manipulate! Let him feel that he is being controlled. (If you do..., I will forgive you/love you/have sex with you...) If your arguments are over, and your partner is still alive and relatively healthy, then remain silent, meaningfully rolling your eyes. Or cry without explanation. Or pack your things and go to mom! Take care of your relationships! (Of course, if they are dear to you) Sign up for an online consultation with the author: [email protected]