From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert of television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, NLP master, best master, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, which you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Lilia.” I haven’t seen or heard from this client from Moscow for four years. Then we worked with her on the female sexual problem of anorgasmia. Within a couple of sessions, anorgasmia was eliminated. At that time, the woman was married, and we did not discuss the relationship with her husband. Now she said that her status has changed. The woman divorced her husband. Now she is trying to build relationships with men, but somehow she is not particularly successful. I, as a sexologist and psychologist, should have understood what was the reason for her failures, not sexually, but personally. Working with this topic, we came to the conclusion that the client was disappointed in men. And the first source of disappointment is her ex-husband. Despite the fact that he was already married, the husband “kept his hand on the pulse”, Manipulated the child, saying: once you get married, I will stop helping you and giving you money. Then his new wife got involved. She periodically sent my client from Moscow SMS with negative content, from the series: “who needs you, you will be alone all your life”... In addition, the couple also influenced the client’s teenage son. The lady tried to limit her son’s communication with his father, and all this somehow dragged on unnecessarily, and did not allow the woman to finally become happy and build a family. I, as a sexologist and family psychologist, came to the conclusion that it was possible to hook the client with these topics and problems. She was not particularly confident in herself, as well as in her femininity and sexual attractiveness. However, there was one positive episode here. When my client met his current wife's ex-husband (sorry for the confusion) and they were in a relationship when sex happened. Then the man showered the client with compliments on the topic: how cool and sexy she is. Such women are very rare. I feel like we have done a good job in the past regarding her female sexual problem of anorgasmia and eliminated it. But now, we had to “clear” the field of negative relationships. So, by increasing the client’s self-esteem, making her calmer and more reasonable, we removed the hooks and traps that her husband and his wife had set. Next, I, as a sexologist and psychologist, began to work so that the client’s fear of going into a relationship would go away. Indeed, the longest relationships were those that lasted three months, then everything usually fell apart. Here we worked on the topic that there was a negative experience with one of the men who was weak in sex; apparently, he had the syndrome of anxious anticipation of sexual failure (ASF). The second one snored loudly and did not particularly care about the topic of intimate hygiene. I just didn't like the next man. Sex with him was unpleasant, there was practically no orgasm. We removed this unsuccessful relationship from the client, and the wrong men. You should treat them as a kind of experience, but perceive them calmly, neutrally, understanding that this was a trial stage in building relationships. This is well understood by all experienced sexologists, psychotherapists, and family psychologists who work on both female and male sexual problems. Now the woman has gained new experience and has drawn conclusions for herself. She began to better understand herself, men, and the essence of relationships - what the client would like to have in life, and the only one - whom she would dream of seeing with her. This was our psychotherapy session.