I often hear that a man should earn a lot of money, take him on vacation at least 2 times a year, give expensive gifts, flowers every week, take care, pay attention, cook, clean in the apartment and keep an eye on the children. Sometimes, detailed portraits of men are described on several A4 sheets. What are our standards in relation to each other? This is a set of requirements for the opposite sex. And if a man’s actions do not fit into our standard, he is not suitable for us. Our planks are packaging, but we somehow forget about the contents. We look at external factors, but we do not always take into account internal factors. We have a set of criteria, but they prevent us from really feeling a person, from seeing in a man who he is. If any of the candidates does not fit our “bar list,” there is a risk of missing out on a good person. A man may not bring in a lot of money, but his income will be stable, and he is looking for ways to increase it. At the same time, your companion will not leave you with problems, he will help you overcome them. And at 12 at night he goes out for chocolate or juice. Such a man treats you and your children well. He may not be well-read and may not light up the company, but he is ready to take responsibility for you and your family. Every time he does something to keep the relationship alive. Conducts a dialogue, listens and hears, draws conclusions. But at the same time, he manifests rudeness, uncouthness and conservatism. Women have their own selection criteria, men have theirs. So everyone is running around with their plans and don’t know how to meet their life partner. But in reality, the needs of some do not coincide with the needs of others. Look at the person. What can he give? Does he want a relationship? Does he care? Does he take responsibility? Can he be a reliable companion in your life? Does he have any dependencies? Is he capable of physical violence? What do you like and what don’t you like about a particular person? What are you willing to put up with and what are you not? You may meet a person who does not meet 50% of the points on your “bar list”. However, he will manifest other qualities that are much more important in family relationships. And finally. In practice, I encounter situations where those men to whom women did not pay attention at all turned out to be worthy husbands. Their wives later said that they became very happy after finally paying attention to their husbands. And it all started with “oh, okay, there’s no one there anyway,” and this man takes care of me and helps me. Did these men live up to the standards of women? - No. As a result, they live a joyful family life. Let's draw conclusions. Every bar, like every rule, must have exceptions. Look first of all at the man, how do you like him, what does he want in relation to you, and then set your standards on him. Do you have your own plank sheet? And are you ready to correct it??