In any relationship we invest our resources, which can be valuable to us, our time, strength, energy. If these relationships are not serious, then they do not go into the future and after some time your investments will burn out. How to transform a frivolous relationship into a serious one so that your partner becomes responsible towards you?1. Trust If there is no trust in you, then there will be a distance between you and your partner, the partner will not let you into his heart, so there can be no talk of any intimacy. In what cases may there be NOT trust in you: if for your partner you are emotionally unstable and unpredictable, he does not know what to expect from you; the partner does not believe in your sincere feelings for him; if the partner cannot rely on you, you can tell his secret or he heard that you are discussing his personal with someone else. The partner will not be able to open up to you. and trust if he believes that you cannot understand him, he does not believe that you can be faithful to him2. Respect For a partner to want to build a serious relationship with you, he must perceive you as his equal, not arrogantly look down on you, but respect you as a person, and even better, admire you as a woman. For this, girls, pump up your realization , charisma, image, self-confidence, the ability to carry on an interesting conversation, independence. If you beg a man for love with an outstretched hand, adapt, please, interest in you quickly falls, you will not see respect, as well as a serious relationship.3. Fear of loss A man should stop being satisfied with an open relationship, because of the fear of losing, losing control over you, this will not happen, of course, if you faithfully look into his eyes and say that I am all yours until the grave. Nevertheless, he should feel your warmth and sincerity, but understand that you definitely won’t tolerate an unworthy attitude towards yourself. A man must understand that you can be interesting to other men, independent and have a wonderful life with or without him, but in no case should you be openly defiant flirting on your part, then you lose his trust and respect (see points 1,2) To sum it up, it’s a bomb combination of your love, warmth for him with independence and self-respect, the ability to please other men and at the same time remain faithful, to be a reliable partner. Based on my extensive experience in psychological counseling, these are the combinations that a man wants to see in a serious relationship. Sincerely, your psychologist Daria Viktorovna Lyapkalo. If you want to analyze your individual case and find a solution, then sign up for a Telegram consultation, WhatsApp +7 952 246 08 60 Sign up for a therapeutic group for people in codependent relationships (online)