Energy vampires are people who cannot cope with their aggression. They are looking for someone to hook up in order to make a row and pour out their aggression outside. And then they feel good, because when aggression is inside, it really “corrodes” them from the inside. And when I poured it out, I felt relieved. But this is a temporary measure, after a while they are again filled with their own aggression and again look for someone to pour it out on. Conclusion - there is no point in finding out something with such people and figuring out who is right and who is wrong or trying to compromise with them, because their goal is completely different. Communication needs to be stopped if you don’t want to end up like a squeezed lemon. What to do if an “energy vampire” is a person with whom communication cannot be stopped? A relative, for example, or a boss. Of course, the first thing to do is to tell this person that you do not like the way he behaves towards you and say how you would like this person to behave towards you. This way you will draw a boundary - how you cannot be treated and how you can be treated. This will definitely work with non-vampires, not exactly with vampires) But in any case, you don’t need to neglect this, drawing boundaries is good for yourself and your own self-esteem. It would be good to reduce the amount of communication with such people to a minimum. And in moments of communication, remember that their behavior is an inability to cope with their own feelings and an attempt to find someone who will help them unload. Being an “unloading port” is very energy-consuming. But you can decide not to be that very port. Imagine that you are not there and your vampire interlocutor is not aggressive against you, but because he cannot find the port. Take the observing side. Watch. How he blushes with anger, how hysterical he is, etc. At the same time, you can mentally strengthen the picture. Imagine that a bucket of excrement was poured on him and he stands in front of you and flows around him))) Yells, waves his arms and flows around him. The brighter and more unthinkable the fantasy, the more distracted you will be from the fact that this person is unpleasant to you. The dominant in your psyche will change from “unpleasant person” to “dripping excrement”. Well, or your other fantasy))) All this will allow you not to get involved in the game called “donor vampire”. And if you don’t play, then the vampire will not be interested in you and he will go looking for a new victim. Author: Yulia Levchinskaya Let me remind you that I have a YouTube channel, where I talk in video format about how to make your life easier, happier and more harmoniously, about how to increase self-confidence, how to stop blaming yourself and start supporting yourself, how to cope with loneliness, how to survive a breakup and start a new relationship, and much more. I attach a video about haters and vampires here below, the rest of the videos can be found on the same channel. If you liked my videos, don't forget to subscribe to the channel so you don't miss new ones.